Small cell Neuroendocrine cervical carcinoma high grade mixed with grade 2 adenocarcinoma
Please do not continue to read if you are easily offended by comments of a sexual nature....
Today I went back to see the Prof who carried out my surgery, these appointments require you to leave your inhibitions at the door.
A full internal examination was required today, fortunately he didn't use the rather large speculum you have when a smear is taken, but a rather more delicately sized one, ladies will be familiar with the knees together, flop relax routine, yeah right your coming at me with that and you want me to relax! There was also a full hand sweep of the vagina. The good news is everything has healed.
Prof is refreshingly honest, my concerns are not dismissed by him like the GP did, he does not accept that my vaginal health is a lifestyle choice and insists I should be able to enjoy a full sexual relationship.
For the first time in over a year I feel like I have choices, they are limited but they are choices.
We discuss HRT and our concerns and decide to continue not to take it, for me whilst the hormone levels would be less than my pre menopausal levels the risks are too high, he expresses concerns about the mix of cancers.
I need to keep my vaginal walls healthy so doing nothing is not an option, I need to have enough vaginal stretch for future examanations.
I'm dismayed that the Prof feels he has to tiptoe around these issue as previously he has offended ladies with some of his recommendations - ladies please this has to stop, there is nothing wrong in a healthy sex life if that's what you want, I am so confident in this I am not remotely embarrassed or ashamed with sharing this with my children and other people I know.
So plan of action lubricant, I have lots of lovely samples to see which I prefer both water based and oil based, dilators for daily use starting with the smallest size available, a selection of vibrators (not available on the NHS in case anyone's concerned I'm having too much fun at taxpayers expense ) and if he could he would prescribe sex twice a day...
I have the option for vaginal estrogen but have to accept this will present a risk if there are any rouge cells floating as it will accelerate their growth.
The main message was I can enjoy a healthy sex life agin but it's going to take time a certain amount of discomfort and yet more patience.
There were also raised eyebrows that I'm back at work 4 days a week so I do really need to try and put in place a more flexible working pattern.
May I ask how are you finding it back at work as I am going back to work in a week's time and looking at doing 3 or4 days a week for a fees then up to t days
I went back at 3 weeks post my last round of chemo, which was probably a little ambitious, I started with 3 days a week and with support at home this was manageable, I increased to 4 days a week and struggle with it, I do commute an hour each way in to London, I'm looking to change my working pattern to include one day a week working from home.
I think my colleagues struggle to grasp how long the side effects last as I look really well, my main ones are fatigue, neuropathy and memory blanks.
I'm of the mindset that I would rather try and fail then not try.
I am 68 and not offended nothing wrong with enjoying sex. I am pleased you are better and can look forward to lovemaking
I asked the Macmillan nurse some questions and I am now less anxious a 32 minute phone call
I’ve been to our GP many times and none the wiser - they seem to me to be “what intercourses at your age” brigade
Embarrassment has cost lives, not what you do how you do it is true. I was recently examined by a female a very caring person, I now don’t know why I should have been embarrassed this medical professional was caring and understanding put me at ease and explained all
I had a pile a while ago I had to wait for a doctor and nurse appointment the nurse being a chaperone, I felt like somebody from out space
Thank you wedgegirl, I get were you are coming from with the work colleagues not fully understanding. As they see you as looking really well and think that you are better to do the job fully but I still get days now were I feel really tied so I think I will stick at my 3 day a week as they are a 7 hour shift with breaks for a bit and then take it from there as I did 5 days a week before it all append and build up slowly but if I don't manage then take a step back
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