My mum & pcnsl

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Hi, I am new to this site, and wanted to share my experience of my mum & pcnsl.

I don't want to frighten anyone but because pcnsl Is a rare cancer I would like to let people know what an aggressive cancer it can be. 

In 2016 my mum started with night sweats, an itchy scalp & dizziness along with what mum described as a tension headache in the back of her head.

We visited her GP lots of times & he diagnosed vertigo, mum seemed to improve a little but then new symptoms developed. She had extreme fatigue & her memory became terrible and she had a few falls in the garden. Again we visited the GP who ran some blood tests & it was found she had a raised plasma viscosity. The Gp increased her dose of vertigo medication in the hope this would help but by August a new symptom of slurred speech developed, again we went to her doctor & mum was admitted to hospital. 

A CT was performed & it was found that mum had a lesion in her cerebellum. A craniotomy was done purely for biopsy reasons as we were told it would be impossible to remove the whole lesion because of where it was within the brain. 


We received diagnosis of primary central nervous system lymphoma on the 9th September and mum was transferred to a specialist oncology ward. Unfortunately mum developed ascites so no chemotherapy could be given, her deterioration was so rapid, it was like she had lost her personality and she was asleep constantly, she was so weak but always managed a kiss & a cuddle. 


Sadly we never got mum home & she passed away on 31 October 2016, just 7 weeks after diagnosis. My only comfort is she was never in pain. 


I'm still in shock, it's 35 weeks today since my mum passed away, I am receiving bereavement counselling but it may help if I had someone on here with a similar experience. 

My advice to anyone would be if you have any of the symptoms my mum had then please go to your Gp, and don't be fobbed off like we where, mum clearly had symptoms of pcnsl in the  very beginning. I know this is a difficult cancer to diagnose and I don't blame her Gp in anyway but I think we should of been more persistent instead of accepting the vertigo diagnosis. 


I miss my mum so much and hope that someone reading this who has symptoms like my mums will seek advice. 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi,

    I really feel for you. You are being really brave and strong and i can imagine it doesn't feel that way at all. 

    My mum has been diagnosed with Pancreatic stage 4 and its inoperable. It too isn't diagnosed until late stages and hard to detect but my mum had all 4 major signs.  Its taken the doctors so long i too am angry as mum hasnt eaten since January and took repeated begging and trips to the GPS to even do blood tests.

    We are meant to be starting Chemo but mum hasn't been good and deteriorated a lot, She is in hospital at the moment but feel her care has been disjointed the whole time. It wasn't until my brother made a massive complaint things moved on.

    Its all so hard i cant imagine how you feel, i feel lost and dont know what to do most days as I get hysterical at the thought of her not being here. This time last year we were in Italy having an amazing holiday. Life is cruel.

    Stay strong your mum would have wanted that and continue to raise awareness for others. Its sounds similar to Pancreatic in that noon really knows about it and underfunded.

    Always here if you need to chat. xxx

    j

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I am sorry to hear your mum is terminally Ill , my advice would be to spend as much time as is possible with her. 

    Even though you know there's nothing that you  can do nothing prepares you for losing them. We too had a bad experience with mums care at the hospital, I have logged a complaint too. 

    Me & mum where very close I saw her every day and I am lost without her.. I have actually applied to volunteer for Macmillan in the hope that I can give support to others in their time of need. 

    You take care, try & remain positive & cherish every minute you have with your mum. 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thanks for your message its really kind. Everything seems hard at the moment. Im hoping Chemo will give mum some time and a miracle you never know! We haven't even really been offered any support or counselling which i find odd as she has 4 children that at times feel totally lost.

    I try not to think too  much about next year or time without her as i get really upset. Feel like i am crying all the time.

    the volunteer thing sounds great, i bet you would really be able to help people. xxxx