My first post

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This is the first time I have ever spoken about my situation and I'm not sure where to start...My name is Lucy Everitt, but my parents always called me Lou. I'm 19 years old and I feel as though I'm 200.When my mum was little she had a tumour in her cheek which was later removed, When I was young I remember my class mates teasing me and asking what was wrong with her, snarling and asking "Has she just come back from the dentist", because of her slightly larger cheek. but to me nothing was wrong, I had never seen my mother any different so I didn't see an abnormality, she was beautiful to me. Around two years ago, my mum started suffering with a non stop headache. Scared it could be a brain tumour, the same thing my aunty (mums sister) died of about 6 years ago, my mum reluctantly had some scans. The scans showed that another tumour had formed in the same place the old one was removed but showed no signs of cancer. The tumour continued to grow and spread around her mouth and nasal passages making it pretty much impossible for her to breath or eat so a tracheotomy and a feeding peg was fitted. After about a year of tests they found the cancer that was making the tumour swell so large. 
My mother was taken from me, my sister and my father september 2011. A month before I was due to move to Cornwall to attend my first year of university. I now live around 300 miles away from my family in the Midlands. I know my mum would have been really angry if I hadn't of gone university but I'm finding it very difficult being so far away from my family and most of all, I miss my mum.

To help me come to terms and deal with the situation that was happening I started taking pictures, Photographs of my mum, her surroundings and the home that she and my father had made for my sister and me.
My blog that contains the images I took- http://loueveritt.wordpress.com/ I'd like to start a new project documenting people diagnosed with cancer or people who have over come it, an inspirational project to raise awareness and to give hope.
I'm not too sure where to start and I would love some advice. 

(me and my beautiful mum Vivienne)

Yours,
Lucy Everitt

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember
    Oh Lucy, you made me cry. All I know is that your mum is so proud of you and she will have imagined every major event in your life ad will be there in spirit with you. So how do I know this, possibly because I have cancer and especially at first, all I could think of was my 19 year old daughter. God bless her, she has been fantastic and has been my nurse for much of my cancer. When I was diagnosed I started a journal to my daughter, trying to tell her what I wished for her on each of life's special occasions. Ultimately Mums wish health and happiness for their children and I am sure your mum was no exception. Dont be a stranger to your family, I know it is not always easy to talk about how you are feeling, but there is no harm in letting them know that you need them. I hope you find comfort and I wish you health and happiness in good time. I send you hugs and kisses and will think of you.