https://community.macmillan.org.uk/en-USTelligent Community 12https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/bereaved-spouses-and-partners-forum/f/bereaved_spouse-forum/310428/father-s-day/2288226Wed, 24 Jun 2026 01:28:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:f98bf7f0-31fd-4882-ba6f-143f471b7f43nicangelI tried cruse counselling but i don't think they wanted to listen to all the things I was dealing with really. Maybe i will try someone else down the line. I think our actions do match the depth of our love. So you absolutely loved your hubby deeply. You will have done everything you could for him. He would be very proud of you. Sending love to you Ahttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/cervical-cancer-forum/f/new-here-say-hello/310160/new-to-group/2288225Wed, 24 Jun 2026 01:10:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:7011e44d-2578-4e60-b021-9523e0001441PhilipaHi Vicburr, Rather late at night to post. I have my first appointment on Friday, my closet friend is coming with me she is so supportive. By temperament I am a private person but being more open is helping me. Finally off to bed now after late night cupboard tidying. Sounds bonkers but feel better for it. Hope you can sleep well in this heat.xxhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/bereaved-spouses-and-partners-forum/f/bereaved_spouse-forum/310428/father-s-day/2288224Wed, 24 Jun 2026 01:02:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:c6f5a780-118e-41ac-934c-3a0fb2aa279aBretonLife and Death can be so Bloody cruel and Unfair. I've tried to ignore the whole Fathers Day thing. I really feel for you with what you went through before Your Nick passed. I haven't been in your position and can only imagine how I would feel. I have 3 sisters who had failed pregnancies in different ways . The youngest having to go through Labour with a stillbirth early on in the Pregnancy. But she did go on to have another child. I always say I would have gone down the route of Adopting if I was unable to have children. Of course you will have all these thoughts and feelings . And it must make everything all the more painful. Did you say you were seeing a Counsellor ? You certainly need someone you can talk through these things with. You are obviously struggling to make sense of it all. as the rest of us are in our own Experiences. I am still struggling to convince myself that I did enough to prevent my dear Hubby from dying despite knowing the facts that he was incredibly ill and in Chronic pain. And I berate myself every day as I cry over what I've lost. And I wish that I could have him back. You have nothing at all to be sorry about. Where else can we pour our Hearts out without Judgement and knowing someone here understands ? Cxxhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/bowel-colon-rectum-cancer-forum/f/general/294050/re-occurrence/2288223Tue, 23 Jun 2026 23:44:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:ab8f32d4-31bc-455f-b091-38c0544ffb13MontyPython2026So glad to hear that. May I ask, what was your initial cancer staging at the beginning of your journey?https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/bowel-colon-rectum-cancer-forum/f/diagnosis/307656/adjuvant-chemo/2288222Tue, 23 Jun 2026 23:39:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:67ea3888-69fa-40b0-b134-5fe42279a18aMontyPython2026How come you had chemo ith T2N0 staging? Did it metastasise after your chemo as well?https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/anal-cancer-forum/f/general/310287/worried/2288221Tue, 23 Jun 2026 23:00:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:12649a13-028f-4416-b091-9eae23ff96d4ClarhedgeI’m glad you’ve got an appointment so quickly with the oncology team. It’s not something you want to be worrying about longer than necessary. I hope they can put your mind at rest. The others that have replied are right about not trusting your own body. I had hardly any symptoms when my cancer was found. I am very lucky to have a good gp who was vigilant and sent me to the hospital. Now every twinge I’m thinking the worst. Good luck and let us know what happens. xxhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/skin-cancer-forum/f/skin-cancer-forum/310496/anyone-have-side-effects-from-applying-aldara/2288220Tue, 23 Jun 2026 22:49:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:0f9bd1ab-e1e0-4c72-9c09-7a2c5761067bPuckettybooHi I used Aldara a few years ago and I was ok for the first two weeks but after that I felt as if id got the flu.... it lasted until I stopped the course... it was effective on the AK thoughhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/cancer-chat-forum/f/chat-13/295498/awake-and-up-all-night/2288219Tue, 23 Jun 2026 22:36:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:c66ffa8e-642d-4173-b9fd-8d54b5e31378Gill Hlove it James, and you're spot on. Night night hon, and sleep well when you settle down xxxhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/ask_the_expert-forum/ask_a_nurse/f/ask_a_nurse/310505/dietary-informationTue, 23 Jun 2026 22:32:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:c36a7eae-12e4-4d25-a1b4-54c130cc9485PeggySooHello, I’ve had chemo/radiotherapy for tonsil cancer and am feeling anxious about potential tooth decay regarding food intake. Just wondering if you can advise re where to get information on the safest foods to eat to avoid hidden sugars and acidity. EG I’ve been drinking oat milk and recently discovered that during processing it becomes a high risk to teeth. Thank youhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/family-and-friends-forum/f/being_a_realative_-forum/304388/desperate-and-scared/2288218Tue, 23 Jun 2026 22:30:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:f57c6c6a-e1f2-49cc-8628-0d575c080d5bmysonHi everyone' We sadly lost our beautiful son last Tuesday.We took him out a few weeks ago and he looked awful.He was dirty, his beard hadn't been trimmed for a long time and the cushion in his wheelchair smelt awful.We were so concerned we phoned his hospice.They went out to him,and phoned us later to tell us he was being moved to the hospice.The hospice then sent him to hospital,because he couldn't move his legs.They found a tumour on his spine.The treatment didn't work,so he was legs were paralysed.The day he passed away we were called to the hospital. when we arrived his girlfriend was there,siitting at the foot of the bed scrolling through her phone,she wasn't comforting him at all.I rushed to him kissed him,cuddled him,held his hand and told him how much i love him.A couple of hours later she picked up his valuables and left.She didn't even kiss him goodbye.He passed away that evening.Now she's planning his funeral and hasn't told us anything about it.So we wont even be aloud to say goodbye to him.I am completely broken.We found a letter in his belongings from the hospice listing everything he had wrong with him.I cant believe she didn't get help. I have to live with losing my son,wondering if he was neglected and being denied saying goodbye to him at his funeral.I'm not sure i can cope with this.https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/cancer-chat-forum/f/chat-13/295498/awake-and-up-all-night/2288217Tue, 23 Jun 2026 22:23:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:e8e73758-941b-4318-8c3b-f02ac0d46a52JamesHSleep well all. If your struggling the England game will be on IPlayer. Instant cure for insomniahttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/cancer-chat-forum/f/chat-13/295498/awake-and-up-all-night/2288216Tue, 23 Jun 2026 22:21:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:daf7d310-e7d2-4abc-bde8-6c3686417eb9Gill HYes, Shimmer's fab, Sonia. Hugs back cherub, and you sleep well too. OH will be off to bed soon and when I've made sure he's settled i think I'll get my head down too. Night night all, hugs and love xxxhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/cancer-chat-forum/f/chat-13/295498/awake-and-up-all-night/2288215Tue, 23 Jun 2026 22:18:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:bdc721f1-0d97-48f0-8adb-ba42865b8eb6SocYes shimmer is brilliant. We need someone like her. She is sympathetic too lovely girl. You can ask her anything. Sending hugs back Gill. Hope you sleep well.xxxhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/cancer-chat-forum/f/chat-13/295498/awake-and-up-all-night/2288214Tue, 23 Jun 2026 22:16:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:f1d482b6-b8d8-4bdc-9a88-acb8401ccc46Gill HTotally agree with you Uki, and I just said to OH that Ghana was the better team and deserved the win. xxxhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/cancer-chat-forum/f/chat-13/295498/awake-and-up-all-night/2288213Tue, 23 Jun 2026 22:12:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:324b24b4-df14-40a5-9af1-f178fc6b6f8fUkiboyGhana's defenders though. Brilliant.https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/cancer-chat-forum/f/chat-13/295498/awake-and-up-all-night/2288212Tue, 23 Jun 2026 22:09:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:dda6089f-2388-4775-87c6-f71719ed9643Gill HIt says 23° on our fan Linda, so I don't envy you at all lovely xxxhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/cancer-chat-forum/f/chat-13/295498/awake-and-up-all-night/2288211Tue, 23 Jun 2026 22:06:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:fe0a9d84-f996-4cb0-a10b-d9d6b6ea2e3fGill HThey needed summat, Uki. That performance has ruined OH's acca. Not happy xxxhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/breast-secondary-cancer-forum/f/general/310486/emotional-support/2288210Tue, 23 Jun 2026 22:05:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:e8348b5a-8869-41a0-8ba5-f4efeab50ee6CoddfishI live in Hampshire, near the coast. You might like to join the living with incurable cancer forum. Lots of people with secondary cancers of various types. community.macmillan.org.uk/.../living-with-incurable-cancer-forumhttps://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/cancer-chat-forum/f/chat-13/295498/awake-and-up-all-night/2288209Tue, 23 Jun 2026 22:03:00 GMTb1115f7d-332f-424f-846c-8cf9ebd36e1f:497fc0d6-9699-4427-8c89-bf69d952c7d1Lin0506I think they needed a few Uki lol