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Late night ramblings

Splodge321
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Awesome news Pepys, a lovely granddaughter to look forward to. As for the wind my mum suffered terribly with it both ways but it was the burping she found most embarrassing. When  she did it in public she would announce loudly that it was a side effect of her terminal disease. She always liked to shock. No time now but will check in again later if the site is still working. 

Kate 

tvman
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Hi Pepys 

Sorry to butt in on this group, but I was reading it and I  see the fantastic news that it's a girl. Absolutely lovely and I'm so pleased for you, your son and your dil. They don't know me but would you please send them my best wishes. Thank you Pepys and sorry folks for coming in. 

Our internet connection at home is giving trouble, it's resetting itself constantly so I don't know if you have announced the good news there yet. It just happened to work for me when I was fiddling around in hope that somewhere would work! 

Speak soon Pepys, you'll sleep happily tonight .

Tvman xx 

tvman
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Hi KiwiWolf

Sorry to butt in on your group but as I have just been telling Pepys, we are having intermittent Internet connection at home and I happened to be around here when the connection kicked in.

I'm an avid gardener and have been for many many years. I see that you have been talking about losing trees and I wonder if your area is being affected by the awful ash dieback problem caused by a fungus called Hymenoscyphus fraxineus which has affected many millions of trees lately. If you go to the RHS website, you'll get more information. 

There is also a possibility that the trees are affected by the very hot weather we're having and a tree's defence in that case is to shed leaves, lots of them. I say this because a rowan tree or mountain ash as it's also called, is apparently not affected by ash dieback! (see the RHS site, or others).

And KiwiWolf, I'm in no way telling you off so please don't fall out with me, just be careful with messages in the public domain, it's a real no-no to bring plants or seeds from one country to another in case they carry a disease or go rampant such as what happened with the invasive Japanese knotweed which is one of the most destructive and hard to kill plants on the planet! Not only a no-no  but also against the law, and walls have ears. 

It's late so you'll probably not get this until tomorrow but of course this thread is called Late Night Ramblings so you might read it shortly. If so, enjoy the rest of your day KiwiWolf. 

Tvman xx 

Lady Pepys
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Dear TV man

plesse do not apologise for ‘butting in’. Butting in is what it’s all about, surely.

im delighted by news of a girl, we are a little ‘top heavy’ with boys in my family.,.i have four brothers though two of them have contributed to the female population. 

Struggling quite a lot with the bloody chemo at the moment and had somehow convinced myself I’m on a break next week. Wrong! Another dose next week before getting my 2-week break (and trip to Glasgow) I’ll just have to amuse myself watching Trump from the settee! Thank godness for some decent TV. The BBC documtary The NHS: A People’s History is excellent. Hope I got the name right! It seems strange to me to think I was around in the earlyish days of the NHS. Middle son  asked me once if everything had been in black and white when I was a child. In a word, yes. No denying the grimness of the postwar years (we had an air raid shelter in our back yard). I remember people could smoke in hospitals, including the patients! We children grew up in clouds of smoke and played in bombed-out streets (which I found quite exciting). Just like those old Shirley Baker photographs. And being in hospital as a child in the early 60s, the ward matron was a feared creature, nurses would threaten you with an injection if you didn’t stay quiet and my parents tut-tutted their way through ‘Carry On Doctor’! I don’t think I miss those days but seeing it all again on screen was funny! 

Hope you are all doing well tonight, friends.

Pepys xx

Lady Pepys
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Dear Kate,

my granddaughter looks very pretty, even on the scan! The images are much clearer now, you can see eyes and dear little lips. Of course I’m intrigued by how they actually know when it all seems vaguely unscientific...ie is there a winkle there or not? Is a boy actually a girl holding up her middle finger? We pondered this for some time (over a delightful cream tea) after getting the news but it seems they are nearly always accurate. 

I’m knitting a baby blanket (years since I made anything) and it’s hard because, for one thing, a blanket is a big project and for another, my hands shake a little from steroids and my right little finger is affected by peripheral neuropathy. Imagine the expletives (rather ungrannyish) when the stitches fall off the needles...I believe things might improve now we know the sex of the child. I’ll restrict myself to little girly cardigans. 

TV man, (unable to find KiwiWolf’s earlier post), wasn’t Japanese knotweed a ‘gift’ to the nation from the Victorians?! It is a nightmare, isn’t it? When I was first looking at houses here, I found an absolute beauty, sadly with a huge bank of earth nearby covered in knotweed. And it was invading next door too. At least estate agents are duty bound to tell you. 

Pepys xx

Lady Pepys
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Dear Kate,

As I said, internet dating is rather fun though I warn you, you need nerves of steel. I have always been astonished by how rude some dates can be...what one man finds attractive, another won’t. I always used up-to-date photos and most men I met were very happy about this because there’s nothing worse than posting pics of oneself in earlier better-looking days!

After I got divorced in 1994, I dated on the Guardian sure (via the newspaper...no photos). By strange coincidence, the three men I’d marked out for dating all had the same name...Tim..so you can imagine how confusing it was when thy would telephone and announce ‘Hi, it’s Tim!’ What are the chances?

Have fun!

pepys xx

Splodge321
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Evening everyone 

well this feels like we are getting back to normal with our chats, long may it continue. 

Welcome tvman, you sound like a lovely chap that fits very nicely into our late night ramblings.  No subject off limits here. 

Peyps im sure your granddaughter is an absolute beauty, however I love the thought of a baby giving the bird on a scan photo. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be born with such a sassy attitude. Sorry the chemo is giving you such a tough time. 

Tvman is quite right about the legal side of importing things kiwiwolf. My mum used to see it as a challenge to get things through customs. When I was 12 we had a holiday in Ireland when we got back to the Uk customs stopped our car and took it apart. When an officer picked up a bottle of lilt my mum whispered keep your mouth shut. Fortunately they never opened it assuming it was my pop. It was only later she admitted it was a bottle of Puccine (don’t know how it’s spelt) . Fast forward many years to them living in Tanzania. My lovely old Labrador Arthur has terrible arthritis and costs me a fortune in vets bills. He’s been on tramadol for years. You can buy any drug over the counter for peanuts there so I asked her to get me some. She brought me 700. Just after there was a lady jailed in Egypt for taking tramadol in holiday. My mum was horrified she had no idea she had inadvertently become a mule, I thought it good payback for the puccine. Don’t worry tvman my mum is no longer with us so no prosecution. 

Sleep well all xx

Kate 

Splodge321
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Oh Pepys we were posting at the same time! Other than making the decision to try internet dating I’ve done nothing more about it yet. I must admit I find it all a little scary, but that’s got to be a good thing. I’m going to research a good site first. I’ve been hearing all sorts of tales about people just wanting a quick bunk up with a stranger. As much as I’m not looking for serious that just sounds so tacky. I do think some amusing tales will come from this venture, hopefully not all at my expense xx

Kate 

Squeaky
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Good morning

Just popping in to say hello. The deer continue to use my garden as a feeding ground! But I’m resigned to that! Whatever you are going through today I hope you have the best day possible.

squeaky

tvman
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Good morning Splodge

Thank you for the welcome, you all seem like nice people so I feel part of the crew already, I love to chat, it's so boring at times, alone at home. 

I remember the odd occasion years ago when taking a flight was quite rare and decimalisation was in it's infancy, when we flew from anywhere back into Northern Ireland where I've lived all my life, there was a total ban in bringing any dairy products or plants or soil into the province without a license. Northern Ireland is of course part of the UK but we had our own laws regarding items brought in. And I'm not Irish, I'm British, one of the Queen's subjects. A little political, but important.

I remember the Egypt case, she said it was for personal consumption but she had hundreds! Not a nice place to be banged up for a few months. 

Have a great day everyone

Tvman

KiwiWolf
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Hello all from Sligo in Ireland. We’re here for a friend’s wedding tomorrow. Going to be a long day and I’m easily tired at the moment so steeling myself for that.

My kowhai seeds were brought in legally several years ago (not by me)  - no smuggling involved! Kowhai is a species of sephora and not on a restricted seed list. You can actually buy them here in specialist garden centres. As a Kiwi I’m very aware of biohazards, especially the dreaded knotweed. You’re right, Pepys -it was originally a Victorian ornamental that’s got out of hand. When we were having some garden work done recently, the gardener thought he’d found knotweed. We got a specialist in who confirmed straight away that it wasn’t - whew! As for the next door rowan, it’s defintely on its way out with something - not lack of water as they have an irrigation system. 

How exciting to find out you’re having a granddaughter, Pepys! I’m afraid I’m not remotely maternal. Saying that, I’m very fond of my relative’s and friend’s children, just never had the urge to have any myself.

We have a lovely river view from our hotel. Lots of ducks and ducklings, a couple of herons and swallows dipping in and out. And last night we saw a mink slink into the water and try for about 20 minutes to get itself a duckling supper. Unfortunately for the mink, the mother ducks were onto it and kicked up a huge fuss. Mink are an absolute scourge in our waterways so I was quite pleased it went away empty-handed.

Lady Pepys
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Hello all,

I’m ready to scream. The technical problems ha w returned with a vengeance. Either I can’t read people’s posts at all, I can read them partially if I find them at all, it is all just awful. What the hell is going on?! Is this some sort of malicious spamming? Sadly it’s affecting my Incurables communications too.  

Pepys xx

i was starting to feel quite happy with the site but it’s now just a huge frustration! 

Splodge321
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Me too Pepys I can that there have been several posts but can only open mine

Kate 

Splodge321
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Back again!

hope you have a lovely time at your wedding Kiwiwolf. Let’s hope this site is properly sorted soon. 

Night all x

Kate 

tvman
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Hi Pepys

Yes there is spamming Pepys, I'll try to find what Lass sent me about it and I'll copy and paste it.

Tvman