Melanoma

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Nodula melanoma

Plonker
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Waiting biopsy results. Had a really dark 4mm slightly rAised new mole removed last week. ? Abnormal mole, ? Early melanoma. But I’ve been googling and everything points to a nodular melanoma. When I enlarge the pic of the mole that’s been removed, it definitely resembles / identical to some of the pics I’ve seen on the net for NM.  Now scared to death. Feel sick, can’t eat, can’t sleep. What if it is and they didn’t get it all when they biopsied? I’ve been told 6 week wait for results. If it is NM, I have no chance! Can anyone offer some comfort please? Am I right to be really worried? I am feeling so so,anxious. 

latchbrook
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Hi  and a very warm welcome to the online community

Waiting for biopsy results is really horrible and there's no easy answer of how to deal with it as we all have different ways of coping. Some people clean the house from top to bottom (you can come and do mine if yours is already done!), I threw myself into my hobbies, others throw themselves into work while others find mindfulness and other similar techniques helpful. Try whichever you think will work for you and also keep coming back here to talk to us.

One thing that you should definitely do is STAY AWAY FROM GOOGLE. As you've found googling hasn't eased your worries but scared you to death. If you want to know more about melanoma and it's treatment then stick with reputable sites like this one or Cancer Research UK.

The great thing about this community is you'll find lots of real people who can share their experiences with you. Some people have been where you are, convinced that they have melanoma, and then come back with the good news that the mole was benign. 

I was diagnosed with melanoma just over 3 years ago after a 6 week wait for my results. The thing to remember is that, if it is melanoma, it has been removed so it's not doing any further damage. Again, if it is melanoma, you'll have a wide local excision (WLE) where a further margin is taken away all around the melanoma to make sure there are absolutely no cells left behind. This usually happens about 4-12 weeks later. If it's over a certain depth then you'll also be offered an optional sentinel lymph node biopsy. However, hopefully your mole will be benign and these procedures won't be anything you'll need to know about.

Sending a supportive ((hug))

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Plonker
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Thanks Latchbrook. Your sentence “The thing to remember is that, if it is melanoma, it has been removed so it's not doing any further damage” has helped. I never thought of it like that. I shall keep that in mind and tomorrow I am going to try and get on with my day. I will ask the GP if he can give me something to help with anxiety though as I am off the wall with it at the moment. Thanks again and thank you for your reply.

latchbrook
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Hi 

I'm glad to have helped. That was how my skin cancer nurse specialist (SCNS) described the removal of the mole/melanoma to me.

There is some good information on coping with anxiety on this site which I could link you to tomorrow if you'd like. 

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Plonker
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Yes please Latchbrook. That would be great. Thank you.

latchbrook
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Hi

How are you feeling this morning? I'm hoping that you got a good nights sleep and that things don't seem as scary this morning.

As promised, here are some links on coping with anxiety. The first one is from MIND and gives advice on how you can help yourself, the next is Macmillan's advice on coping with fear and anxiety and the last one is from the NHS and gives links to mindfulness apps, some of which are free.

x

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Plonker
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Hello latchwood. Thank you gor those links which i will def.use. i didnt sleep last night and have beennin a panic all morning. Im seeing my GP this afternoon so hopefully they will prescribe something to take the edge off. Thanks again.

latchbrook
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How did you get on at the doctor's ?

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Plonker
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Hello, thanks for asking. I’ve been prescribed beta blockers and told to seek CBT. Hope they work. I keep trying to remind myself that it’s been cut out and if it is M it will be treated. Oh this waiting game is horrible. Then I think if it is the worst news, it starts all over again. Trying so hard to keep calm. 

latchbrook
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Glad to see the GP was able to help .

Hopefully with each passing day you'll feel less anxious. It certainly happened that way for me.

I know this is easy to say but worrying won't change the future but it will make the present miserable for you.

At the moment you don't know whether the mole is benign or malignant and it would be such a shame to spend the time leading up to finding out feeling awful when it might be benign.

Keep talking to us here if you feel you need to as we all understand how you feel.

Sending a virtual ((hug))

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Plonker
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Hello Latchbrook, every single word you write makes sense and when I start to get into a panic, I read your posts and they do start to calm me so thank you. It’s trying to get things into perspective in my mind and understand that if it is M, then it’s a diagnosis, not a death sentence. That’s helped.