Liver cancer

A place for people affected by liver cancer to support one another, ask questions, and share their experiences.

Mother in law (85 yr old) just diagnosed

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Hi all,

Thank you for allowing me to join the group. My 85 year old mother in law has just been diagnosed with liver cancer-doctors haven’t said much other than the mass is large and is pressing on one of her kidneys. She had a biopsy yesterday so we’re awaiting results. Our fear is that already the ward is talking about discharging her back home! We think that she’s still too unwell to go home. She very frail, can hardly walk without getting exhausted and she’s having bad diahorea which doctors don’t think is related the the cancer but has been going on for months now. She also has cardiomyopathy. 

What support is is available for her if she is discharged? Will this support be NHS funded or not? It’s a minefield and so stressful. Myself and hubby are the only family living locally and we have a young son to care for too. We’re worried that we can’t give up our lives to give her the care she needs. Any advice would be greatly received x

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Hi, n welcome  to the community tho it's not somewhere we'd willingly belong to.

You might find it useful to ring the Helpline on 0808 808 0000 for advice re support. Some areas have hospice at home services, others rely on organizations like Macmillan and Marie Curie, others r hit n miss.

Another thing u might want to do is join the Family and friends group  where you'll find others in a similar position to yourselves.

 The staff will  have to decide- given your mum in law's other health problems - whether surgery or drug treatment is the best way forward. Once  the results of the biopsy are available, there'll b a meeting of the MDT ( multidisciplinary team) to decide on the next course of action. This MDT brings together all the folk involved in a patient's care- from consultant to  cancer nurse specialist to radiologist and so on.

Fear of the unknown is the worst thing. Once we know what we're facing, we find the strength to deal with it.