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Grade 3 breast cancer

AmyW2016
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Hi everyone, 

My mum is 73 she has early dementia and she’s been diagnosed with grade 3 breast cancer.

I guess I’m just wondering if anyone can tell me more about grade 3, is it very far advanced has anyone got any positive stories regarding grade 3?

many thanks 

Dreamthief
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Morning 

Sorry to see you joining us here and reading about your mum's breast cancer :-/

Grades of breast cancer aren't considered to be as important now, grade 3 means is the cancer cells are more prone to be quicker growing than 1 or 2.
 It is often termed aggressiveness but there is a lot more to it than that, you have to look at all the results as a whole.

A lot of people muddle up Grade and Stage - the stage number is more significant regarding treatment regimes. Do you happen to know her grade number or any other results like being Triple Negative (TNBC) or ER/PR or HER2 hormone receptor details and if any cells were found in any lymphnodes ?
  I'm assuming the information you have is from a biopsy and not from tissue removed by any type of surgery ?



There are literally loads of members here who have come through treatment for breast cancer and now have no evidence of disease, the bigger picture is if chemotherapy is recommended, depending on how severe her dementia she may find it harder to cope with :-/



Fingers crossed for her chemo isn't beneficial enough to be offered.


Take care, G n' J



Ruby Rose
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Hi

I was grade 3 and when I questioned the severalty of this , it was brushed away and said they didn’t worry too much about grades. I am now coming up for 2yrs since completion of treatment and I’m well and fit . 

Depending on what capacity your mum has , you could discus everything with your GP , to see if your mum has the capacity to make her own decisions. ( I had full power of attorney for both financial and health of my mum, so easy to discuss anything) my mum did not have dementia. 

My mum had various lumps in her  back that were questionable, before her appointment we sat and discussed what she would want to happen re chemo should they recommend treatment . She said she didn’t want chemo , her surgeon agreed. Mum would have been 76. She lived happily to 88.  It wasn’t easy to start the discussion but in our case I felt it better that we discussed it in a non clinical situation.

i wish you and your mum well , I have experience of dementia in family and friends and each and every one of them different, a bit like breast cancers 

Take care and have plenty hugs , precious hugs

Love 

Ruby Rose  

  • My face looks better when I smile - so smile it is ! 
feemcg
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Hi...I noticed mine was recorded as grade 3 but never asked much about it...I had complete response to chemo, lumpectomy and radiotherapy so I suppose that's the best I can ask for (touch wood!)

AmyW2016
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Thank you for your kind words Ruby xx

I’m glad you’re fit and well, it’s nice to hear positive things.

I took my Mum to the hospital today so a consultant could tell me all the things he told her and I came away feeling peed off, firstly he shouldn’t have let her go alone the first time given that she has dementia and everything I asked today kept getting brushed off with ‘ I don’t know and don’t worry I’ll look after her’

I was hoping to feel more positive after this visit and I just feel confused and sad for her.

she had written a letter to the hospital giving them her consent to talk to myself and my sister as we don’t have power of attorney yet and he refused it, even though I’d be told by a nurse that’s what I needed to do. 

Her op is booked for a few weeks time, but I don’t feel confident about anything right now. 

I want to be more in control for her and I feel lost and scared for my poor mum! 

I guess I do worry about chemo and people of a certain age. It’s lovely to hear that your Mum lived to such a good age xx

Thank you xx

Ruby Rose
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Dear

I am so sad to read this . It would be worth contacting MacMillan for advise . You will need power of attorney financial and care , but a doctor would have to advise your solicitor if your mum has capacity to make her own decisions. This would need to be done ASAP . 

do you have a Maggies centre near you ? Or similar . They are brilliant for whole family support and vet knowledgable . 

citizens advise may help too . Always worth asking for help , even so that you know you have done everything possible , for your peace of mind . 

Keep posting as others may come along who can be of more help . We will definitely support you , Also look at other threads , they can be very uplifting . 

take good care of yourself as a carer you are mega important to your mum . Be kind to yourself .

love 

Ruby Rose  

PS

my husband and I have already set up power of attorney for our sons , won’t be actioned  until we say so or a doctor says we are not fit ! Hopefully never needed ! cost us £700 but it’s like an insurance policy ! Buts that was for two . 

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Londonmumof2
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Oh dear, it sounds like the consultant is going 'by the book' on privacy.  Do you have a good relationship with your mother's doctor,  as s/he will have been kept up to date,  and may tell you her diagnosis and proposed treatment. 

My mother didn't want power of attorney as she was scared about losing her mind (she also talked about people looking old,  despite living to 97!), but the doctor/ hospital let me accompany her to appointments, though I went with her over quite a few years so they were probably used to me. 

“Remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet.  Stephen Hawking,