Breast cancer

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Grade 3 breast cancer

Sall
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i have recently (today in fact ) been diagnosed with grade 3 breast cancer. My options are lumpectomy or bust reduction.... I am large breasted and have wanted a reduction for many years as suffer with back pain following car accident! 

Just wondering other people experience of making this decision? 

What are the plus n minuses? 

Thanks x 

“What makes us ill, is making us better!”
”I’ve got cancer it doesn’t have me!”
latchbrook
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Hi  and a very warm welcome to the online community although I'm sorry that you've had to find us.

I can't help with your question I'm afraid as I'm not a member of this group but noticed that your post had gone unanswered. By replying it will bump it back to the top of the page where hopefully someone with the right experience can help you.

I'm also going to tag my fellow Community Champions  and  into this reply as they look after this group and should be able to help you further.

When you feel up to it, it would be really useful if could pop something about your journey so far into your profile as it helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

Wishing you all the best with whatever you decide to do.

x

 "Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"

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Sall
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Thanks latchbrook for your help and advice.

i will update my profile but at moment I’m not sure what to say

thanks xx

“What makes us ill, is making us better!”
”I’ve got cancer it doesn’t have me!”
latchbrook
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You're welcome

If you want to see what sort of things to say in your profile then click here to see mine. You'll see that I have done it as a timeline and when something new happens I just add it. You don't have to do it in the same way that I have, just whatever suits you. There's no rush either and if you don't feel like doing it yet that's not a problem.

x

 "Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"

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Grogg
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Sorry about your diagnosis but glad you found this forum.  I was a 38G when diagnosed and offered a breast reduction.  I was given a week or so to think about.  I decided against but by the time I saw my surgeon a week later she had also decided against as she felt cosmetically I could have a good result and not he lopsided by a lumpectomy.  After my surgery o er the next 12 months I lost two stone do my breasts reduced naturally.

i decided against bilateral reduction as I didn’t want unnecessary surgery, perhaps partly because I’m a wimp!!!

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LexiT7
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Hey and welcome to the community, although I'm sorry for the reason you find yourself here. I'm so sorry to hear about your recent diagnosis. 

In this case, I do think that although there are pros and cons to this decision, only you know what is best for you. For example, if you dont tolerate pain well, or dont want to be having a bigger surgery that could end up taking a while to heal, then a lumpectomy may be  better for you. But, if you are unsure about a lumpectomy, doubtful it will be enough (like my mum was with her surgery) and want peace of mind, then maybe the bust reduction would be better for you. Whatever your decision, it will be the one best for you, and as long as you have found out enough information to make a decision, then that's all that matters. One thing I will say, is that my mum had a quadrantectomy, where they removed a quarter of her effected breast, and reconstructed, and they also did the same with her other breast so she wouldn't be wonky etc. So dont worry about the aesthetics of the procedure, these are things your surgeon will speak to you about, and whom you can find out more information from. 

It may also be a good idea to contact your Breast Vare Nurses, as they can provide you with more insight into both procedures, and can do so with the knowledge of your cancer, so can give you the best advice, relevant to you. I'm sure some other ladies will be along with some of their own experiences to share with you, which I hope will help. I hope this helps you, and no matter what decision you make, you'll always have us here to talk to, and to listen to you, so please keep us updated about your progress. 

Lots of love, hugs and healing to you, 

Alex xxxx

"And though she be but little, she is fierce" - Shakespeare 
Sall
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Hi Grogg thanks for reply I’m 42JJ bust reduction is something I’ve enquired about via my gp n been referred only to be told I needed to lose about 4stone before they would do it! Ido suffer back pains n not sure if it’s weight of boobs lol....... So the idea of losing some of my boobs doesn’t worry me. I want to be healthy n cancer free. Whenever I’ve lost weight in past it never goes from my boobs unfortunately 

thank you for replying xxx

“What makes us ill, is making us better!”
”I’ve got cancer it doesn’t have me!”
Sall
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Thanks Alex for the message I know it’s my decision n that’s what hubby has told me too but just wanted to see if anyone else had gone through either op..... I saw breast care nurse on Friday n will see her again next week when see consultant. Got all the leaflets n been looking online. Spoke to friend who is going through reconstruction at moment...... 

Think I've made my decision anyway xx

“What makes us ill, is making us better!”
”I’ve got cancer it doesn’t have me!”
LexiT7
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Hey I'm so glad you've spoken to your breast care team and researched your options (very well it seems! Haha) 

it sounds like you've made your decision, and as long as you think it's the best one for you then that's all that matters. My mum had reconstruction surgery, and although shes had quite a few issues regarding healing of the wounds, shes happy with the results of it, and the way her breasts still look. 

Either way, whatever decision you make, you'll still be beautiful, inside and out. 

I hope your meetings with your consultant etc go well, and hopefully you'll have a surgery date soon, something to get down to and over with, so a massive part of your journey is complete. Let us know how you get on, and remember you'll always have us here for you.

Lots of love, hugs and healing, 

Alex xxxxx

"And though she be but little, she is fierce" - Shakespeare 
LexiT7
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Hey I'm so glad you've spoken to your breast care team and researched your options (very well it seems! Haha) 

it sounds like you've made your decision, and as long as you think it's the best one for you then that's all that matters. My mum had reconstruction surgery, and although shes had quite a few issues regarding healing of the wounds, shes happy with the results of it, and the way her breasts still look. 

Either way, whatever decision you make, you'll still be beautiful, inside and out. 

I hope your meetings with your consultant etc go well, and hopefully you'll have a surgery date soon, something to get down to and over with, so a massive part of your journey is complete. Let us know how you get on, and remember you'll always have us here for you.

Lots of love, hugs and healing, 

Alex xxxxx

"And though she be but little, she is fierce" - Shakespeare 
Sall
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Thank you x I have a lot of support from friends as well as my family which helps.

i have been asked how I can I be so upbeat about it. My reply was what’s the point in being miserable? I have a life to live and live it I’m going to do..... xx

“What makes us ill, is making us better!”
”I’ve got cancer it doesn’t have me!”
LexiT7
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its wonderful to hear that you have so much support, its great that you know and have people close to you who you can learn on and talk to at such a difficult time. 

Your approach to this is amazing too! You have such a positive mindset about it, but like you said, there's no point in being miserable, you have to keep going and laughing to get through the hard times. It's an admirable way you're dealing with things! 

Lots of love, 

Alex xxxx

"And though she be but little, she is fierce" - Shakespeare 
Sall
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Alex that could all change once I’ve got dates for treatment to start, don’t know if it just hasn’t sunk in fully what I’m dealing with cause I don’t feel ill...... 

I’m just taking 1 day at a time.

I see the consultant on Wednesday 26th so hopefully have some dates and then it might hit me.....

“What makes us ill, is making us better!”
”I’ve got cancer it doesn’t have me!”