Worried mum

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Evening all, 

Waiting on biopsy results for my son (aged 37) been told 6cm colorectal tumour. Urgent situation, CT and MRI done within a few days just waiting on pathology now to make a plan for treatment. Totally anxious and distraught for him.. will no doubt be here for support, advice and general guidance from anyone willing to help. He’s very upbeat, I’m a mess Pensive just hoping the scans show localised only. 

  • Hi  and a warm welcome to the bowel page. Yes the waiting for scans and results is very stressful but once there is a treatment plan in place then things will honestly feel a bit better. Bowel cancer is notoriously slow growing but very treatable even if there is spread to other organs. 

    Ive attached a link to a booklet that I was given at my first meeting which may help with terminology and what to expect treatment wise 

    https://bowelcancerorguk.s3.amazonaws.com/Publications/YourPathway_BowelCancerUK.pdf

    We’re all at different stages of treatment and recovery on here and happy to support you and your son through his

    Take care

    Karen x

    Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm
  • THANKYOU so much Karen, I’m heading down to see him today… just to give a bit of support make sure the cupboard is stocked with good stuff etc and help where needed. They have a 1 year old.. so a lot of stuff going on. Hopefully as you say things will look brighter when all is revealed re treatment. The wait is agony though. THANKYOU for the link very much appreciated as is any advise x  

  • You’re very welcome  I think my main advice would be to stay away from google and to focus on each stage of treatment in turn. I’m sure they’ll appreciate you looking after the 1 year old while at appointments and doing any running about when needed. Take the lead from your son - I was maybe a bit in denial but just decided ‘it is what it is’ and to get on with it. I appreciated going out for coffee or lunch with friends and talking about normal non- cancer related things. My mum acted as family go between so my brother and sister would ring her for updates or some people set up a WhatsApp group? 
    It’s important to look after yourself too - the airplane adage of putting your own oxygen mask on before helping others rings true - you can only support your son if you’re looking after yourself too.
    The next few months will be tough but the treatments are doable so please keep posting and ask anything you like - there is nothing too daft or embarrassing on here! x

    Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm