Gosh you are and alot stronger than you give yourself credit for. I'm so glad you have your operation over you and are resting up.
My surgeon is lovely infact she doesn't realise but, i now know i met her before as she did my mums surgery when she was nearly 85 and my mum sailed through it. Unfortunately she died last June due to dementia she was a fabulous lady. I don't doubt my surgeons abilities shes very passionate about her work it's just any operation
Due to having Fibromyalgia ive not been able to get housework done but, my husband does his best he's a fantastic support.
I'm so glad to hear you have friends to help out it's a shame your son or wife don't help out. I know you say its in your DNA to be strong but, i think it's nice to be supported in your hour of need. I'm not putting your son down as i don't know the circumstances, it's just a comment.
I will be fine it's just the fear of the unkown and my last labour was terrible lol.
Thank you for your lovely message you are very comforting Gentle Hugs for you too.
Love A x
Yes, we are stronger than we think we are when put to the test. I'm go[lad that you appear to be coping.
Post op problems for me - my stitch came out which holds my drain tube in place, thus has caused bleeding. Was advised to go to A&E by community nurse. Was told that there is another stitch in place holding the drain tube. Was re dressed then back home. Problem is no matter how many waterproof dressings are applied, the blood is still escaping and is leaking out very slowly. Can't go out. Will have to wait until Tuesday when Community nurse visits, I will ask her to remove the drain as it is so much trouble and causing me distress. Has anyone else had this problem??
Many thanks to all the kind people who replied to my first posting. Its so lovely to know that people care enough to reply. To all the breast cancer women out there - were in this fight together, I hope and pray that we will all have the strength and will to fight this nasty disease. We should keep each other going.
Sorry to hear your drain has been giving you problems. I hope you get it sorted on Tuesday. As losing blood slowly they should have put another stitch in.
I believe a mastectomy was the right thing as its away once and for all, instead of fearing it could appear somewhere else.
Won't be getting my op until 9th May so can't actual answer your question.
You look after yourself and take it easy. Gentle Hugs and a Happy Easter x
Hope u have all been able to enjoy the weather and it makes u feel good ...It has me I've been walking around thanking the universe for being there for me and giving me the chance to carry on living due to medicine the way it is now it doesn't kill us all ...in the future it will be a thing of the past hopefully and soon .. my gran died from the cancer I have and I know she is around watching over me too ... I apologise for being so positive ...but that's just me how I am .U are all on my mind who are having it rough and waiting for surgery etc .. but please have PMA (positive mental attitude) no matter what it goes a long a long way I believe....find something each day to be thankful for no matter how small ....there are she'd loads of people worse of ...ie last week before my op I was thankful I didn't have Parkinson's,or a brain tumour.and motoneurons disease ...I still have chemo for def to go thru but I shall still take it on the chin will keep u all up to date . Love and light to u all x Cobwoman (J)
Housework what's that xx
Good afternoon and i hope your having a lovely day. It's great to hear how positive you are and i for one don't think you need to apologise for being that way. I know too many people that have been taken to early and others that have suffered and once they think things are going good another bombshell knocks them back big time.
So i thank God for all he does for me and know there is a reason for the good and the bad in my life. I will be helped through this dark place and feel i will come out a stronger person.
Don't get me wrong at times i panic about it all it's just the unknown will be glad when ops over and get my results. Everything will be fine and i also have alot of support.
Good luck with your Chemo and keep up the positive attitude.
The one thing doing my head in is fatique as i'm fighting to keep my eyes open even typing this message LOL.
Gentle Hugs xxx
I too have in the past been in some very dark places and that is why I live my life as I do .. I lost my hubby when he was 34 and my partner of 12 yrs at 40 ...partner was 10 one in 2yrs .. I only have my son left now ...I live for them as well as me ...it's a task I tell u ...been tested beyond belief over the yrs . I tell u surgery in my experience was the easy one ... Just gonna go with Chemo ...yeah I was v tired near the end before surgery it feels like it has u ... Not long now.. rest when u can... I only managed 4hrs a night at best .. days baby brain and just fighting for energy but such a relief to be rid of that evil disease ... My hair was looking sh*t but now it's sleek and manageable again ...
Hang in there prayers for u always
I can understand what you say about the surgery being the easy one. I couldnt try to magine what youve been through losing yor husband at 34 then losing your partner at 40. I'd rather lose my breaat any day than my hubby he's my rock and soul mate. I'm so so sorry for these terrible losses you have had. You definitely have been tested beyond belief to say the least .
I'm not surprised you so strong you have had no choice. I'm sure its a task but, i think the life you have been given has made you able to handle things. Although i'm sure you'd like to be given a break.
I hope you start to sleep better and get through the chemo ok.
Thank you for thinking of me when you have so much going on in your own life.
Gentle Hugs and prayers for you
Yeah life has been different from the norm but like u say it makes u stronger ...Def has me ...but I think I was put on this earth to help people I have had in my life ...I miss them all terribly but I admit I do "talk" to them all everyday asking for their energies to help me get thru the days ,months ,years till I see them all again ...u see I turned spiritual about 20yrs ago which I find a comfort now ...nothing weird in it just a belief in the afterlife and that we are here for a purpose and just nothing after this life does not make sense .. each to their own lol .
I have animals so they are a great comfort to me all rescued of course ,and 5 Guinea pigs
Love and light my friend
In my prayers
Cobwoman J XXX
Its a time like this i wish my mum was here to talk to and my dad likewise. Although i'd say i was alot closer to my mum.
Yes i visited their grave last week and put flowers on it for Easter. Was asking them to give me strength etc. My mum died last June i miss her dearly. I would ho crazy if i thought i'd never meet up with them again. Think if i didn't have faith life would be very hard.
I have a small circle of friends as i believe in quality not quantity they are a great support. I have a cousin that took in rescue dogs and cats but nows shes not fit to. She has a few but thats it now i think.
You remember that you still need to take it easy as its early days. Sending you Gentle Hugs and prayers.
I wasn't close to my mum she adopted me out when I was 5 then I met up again when I was in my 20s but she lied to me all the time and kept secrets from me till her grave... I try to forgive her .. my dad I haven't seen since I was 2 when they split up .
U don't think how life can change when u take these lovely creatures on but I am coping ok .
Yes I do rest quite a bit ...may seem I don't but believe me I do.
Take care sweetie my phone is out of battery and my bed time anyway ..
Love and light
Sorry to hear about your mum and dad.
Your animals need you and you are now giving them a good life and im sure you get great satisfaction out of that.
Good night and sweet dreams
Thanks it one of those things
My animals give me great comfort too and me them I'm sure . I wish more people could have their souls too .
Love and light to u and all sufferers ,
Yes thats true about animals and if people were more like them instead of so much hate and anger.
Was with my surgeon today my op is going ahead next Thursday. Cant wait for it to come just want it all over me now. I'm very nervous but i know i will be fine .
You take care and enjoy the rest of your week.
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