My 72-year-old dad has been diagnosed with prostate cancer. That was in mid-December and he's yet to start treatment. This is mainly due to conflicting information he's now received from 3 different consultants. Each one recommends the below, but they can't seem to agree as there's very little communication between them. Understandably, this is driving my dad crazy as he's very little reassurance, he's confused and he's even said as the process has been so inefficient, confusing and thoughtless, he might not bother with treatment at all. Obviously that would be dreadful but I can appreciate how exhausting and distressing it is.
To add to the hassle, his local hospital (Lister in Stevenage) called him in today for a meeting - my dad hoped this would provide him with a final recommendation. Instead the consultant has sent him to a hospital in London to see the other consultant!
It's becoming absolutely ridiculous.
Can anyone suggest the best course of action? Is there an organisation we can contact that could somehow 'pull rank' on the consultants to get them to provide my dad with the best course of action. Honestly, it's infuriating that consultants are paid for their senior knowledge and experience, yet they can't provide my dad with a simple recommendation, knowing how stressful a cancer diagnosis is.
My younger brother was treated for testicular cancer last summer/ autumn in Cambridge Addenbrookes, yet the route to treatment was crystal clear as soon as they'd diagnosed him. Sadly, my dad is experiencing the complete opposite.
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how distressing, for him and all of you
good news on your brother receiving excellent care, I have heard good things about Addenbrookes oncology, I had my eldest son there 30 odd years ago and my youngest was treated for suspected Intussusception nearly 20 years ago.
I'm not an expert on prostate, I had breast cancer and although the path to my diagnosis was extraordinarily tricky, once the consultants got together they did all agree I'd need a mastectomy and for me, for breast, surgical removal did make sense. We still use 'cut', 'poison' and 'burn' in that order, surgery is by far and away the most effective route to removing cancer and if that's possible it is the way to go.
However there are a lot of reasons why surgical removal might not be possible or practical. Age and health of the patient and other related conditions which make surgery, or rather anaesthesia, risky. They will weigh up the pros and cons, or should, and then give you their professional opinion
and that's not happening
why so much fence sitting ????
I was treated initially at my local hospital, Bedford, but due to lack of surgeons for breast reconstruction I was referred to the Marsden in Chelsea. It's highly regarded but ridiculously busy.
What happened was that the team or surgeons, breast consultants, oncologists, radiologist and radiotherapists have a multidisciplinary team meeting, usually once a week, and all the patients are discussed and treatment plans agreed.
I was discussed in Bedford and then I had to wait to be discussed again in London.
72 is an 'awkward' age because ... past 70 we might start considering quality over quantity ? My friends father was diagnosed with lung cancer at 85 and we all agreed that to have offered him any kind of treatment was simply not worth it, chemotherapy is brutal, other therapies are not without side effects. Radio might make things worse, as you said.
Perhaps if you have a quick chat with the nurses on the helpline, open today until 8pm 0808 808 0000 and seek some reassurances maybe you can act as a calming influence, difficult I know, I can hear you rolling your eyes at me as I type this but someone has to be the one that listens to his frustrations but then says, it's going to be alright, obviously you need to believe that to be convincing ...
I'm going to see if I can find some relevant stats. I only know breast cancer off the top of my head ... be right back ...
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quotes and links to help you be positive and reassuring ...
If lung cancer is like a fast-moving wildfire, prostate cancer is like a slow-moving sloth. About 30% of men over age 50, and about 70% of men over age 70, have at some cancerous cells in their prostate glands. Yet most of them die from something else, and never know about these cells.
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Hi, Can recommend(though appreciate that not everybody will have money for a private treatment,) from extensive research on different treatments for prostate cancer, " Nanoknife" ( not available through NHS, as they have not tested it for prostate( it is used for pancreas,kidney liver), at Princess Grace London or- more for more experience,at Offenbach, nr Frankfurt ,in Germany.High success rate with no incontinence ,and minimal ED.Very experienced, highly qualified team at " Vitus Prostate" centre for advice.Had treatment there recently- (Locally Advanced,stage 3a,Gleason8- 4+4. Can treat all stages.)
Best regards ,foxyles
Thank you for your reply - what you say is all very helpful and reassuring.
I should add that my dad has had brilliant support from his local Macmillan advisor at hospital. I think he's suffering with anxiety, which is understandable, which I feel is probably making the decision-making process so hard for him.
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