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Hi, my dad was recently diagnosed with stage 4. bowel cancer that has spread to his liver. Found out last week that there is no treatment available so only palliative care. Its going to take a couple of weeks for the Macmillan nurse to be in touch. In the meantime has anyone any advice on how best to support my parents process this news - I’m afraid to go to their home due to the risk of Coronavirus. Thanks so much x
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Thank you so much. Feeling rather overwhelmed st the minute so I really appreciate your reply.
I’m in the same situation as you so my heart goes out to you , my dad has bowel cancer that has spread to his liver. They discharged him from hospital on a fastrack because his wishes are to be at home.
weve had a difficult today today dad hallucinating , very confused and disorientated. Seeing things that aren’t there talking about people from years ago. The doctor thinks it’s a medication he started the other day. He was searching the bed earlier, I asked him what he was looking for and he said a sausage!? is your dad on any medication ?
Sounds like you have had a tough day - although I’m sure the sausage comment raised a smile!
No, my dad is not on any medication yet. He only heard last Thursday from the hospital that there is no treatment available. He was in reasonable form until Monday when he heard mum talking to the GP. The GP made a comment that there are many forms of bowel cancer and in some cases life expectancy is 4-6 months. He picked up on this - even though she wasn’t referring specifically to him as she had not received any details from the hospital. Still waiting for the MacMillan nurse to get in touch so they are very much adrift at the minute and I don’t know how best to help them.
Hope they are able to adjust your dad’s medication.
We waited ages for the Macmillan team to contact us. Hospital didn’t refer until dad was coming home on a fastrack.my dad had a really bad night, hallucinating really agitated quite nasty. Had to call out the district nurses , I’ve been up all night with no sleep. He doesn’t remember anything about it which is good. He was kicking and pushing me it was horrible, I’m hoping it was a reaction to some medication and not a rapid deteriation.
It sounds as if your dad is further along on this awful journey than mine is. My dad has a long-standing neurological condition and he has a lot of pain from this so I don’t know how much extra if any at the minute is down to the cancer. Am hoping the Macmillan nurse will be able to help with the emotional side of things. He has been fighting the other condition for so long I fear that this might just make him give up altogether.
Thank you so much for offering to talk more I’ll try to find you on fb although it doesn’t always behave well on my phone! Hope you get some rest and your dad settles x
Yeh he is. He only found out on the 9th April, so it’s all been a bit of a blur to be honest. He spent two weeks in Doncaster hospital. He’s on antibiotics for suspected water infection which would have been causing all the hallucinations etc. xxx
Hope your dad is more settled and you are getting some rest. Mine is getting much more back pain - don’t know if this is due to his original condition or the cancer. He is a bit brighter at the minute though which is good. He has only been to hospital for ct scan and then for a biopsy so it seems to be down to his gp to sort out medication at the minute. Typical it happens on a bank holiday weekend.
Hope your dad gets his pain sorted. Dad could never have a biopsy they deemed him not strong enough. Originally the plan was a biopsy and possible stoma operation. Maybe ring the gp first thing tomorrow when they open. You can always request a home visit too. Let me know how you get on xx
Our out of hours service isn’t great so probably be Tuesday when our regular gp opens. Nothing is ever straightforward Dad never got any treatment options just palliative care - even though that hasn’t actually begun yet. Hoping it all starts to get moving this coming week x
Whereabouts are you based? Dad didn’t once he was in hospital they just kept telling him there’s nothing they can do, he’s too weak and the cancer is too advanced. They basically sent him home on a fastrack as that’s his wishes as if he went into a nursing home or hospice we wouldn’t be able to visit. Keep pushing, our palliative care nurse hasn’t been great she didn’t even want to visit although she is doing now.lone thing I’ve learnt since this all started in April is you have to keep on at people and really take charge of things. I write down whenever someone rings or comes out, I have a folder full but it helps me as my mind would never remember all the people I’ve spoke to.xx
Hi, we’re in N Ireland. Thanks for the advice, If there is no progress tomorrow will have to start pushing. Up til now we’ve been relying on ‘the system’ but as you say there isn’t time for that x
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