Hi everyone,
I am looking for some help and advice about visiting a relative with cancer, (whom I will call Pat). I would like to go and visit her, and rang the care home she is in for respite care this morning and checked that she was happy to have a visitor. The lady who answered the phone went and asked her and Pat said that it would be lovely to see me. I told my mum (who is her cousin) that I was going to visit, but my mum told me that Pat does not want any visitors. She had been told this by her Pat's best friend who is a regular visitor. The friend has told my mum that Pat is getting muddled with having medication and just is not her self any more. She is confused as to who is who and evidently had said before she got like this that if she got really bad that she would not want people to see her like that. She would like people to remember her how she was. I am very confused about what to do. I feel like I will not get another chance to see her. I am not sure if she really has said this, and I have already asked the care home to tell her I am going. My mum does not want me to go but I really want to go. Any advice please? Thanks.
Good morning , I am with my friend , just go.
The long months I had in hospital my view changed like the wind with regards to having visitors but I was always pleased to see family and in some circumstances old best friends.
If the YES is stronger than the NO you go with the YES xx
Great and well done, it did you both some good.
