You say you're distancing yourself from the people who love you, who are those people?
I think that a lot of problems with addiction are down to habitual behaviour and if you can break those habits you can break the cycle of addiction, change your friendship circle if they're all in the habit of sitting around getting stoned every evening, same as if all your mates go to the pub every night.
Finding alternative social circles is not as easy as it sounds but it's not impossible it just takes a bit of effort.
You may even find that there's a spiritual group near you who might be open to new members, I was told that I'd be great at Tarot but never got around to buying a set of cards, but I know there is a spiritual group near me who meet once a month and I am curious.
In my ideal world every drug would be legalised and controlled and taxed. Buying drugs on the street you have no idea how pure they are or even if they are what you're being sold. It's not like buying paracetamol with the exact ingredient list on the back of the pack is it.
The very best advice I ever read was a doctor telling his daughter that if she must try drugs then at least let one of her friends try them first and wait 20 minutes, if they're still alive it's probably okay.
You have no idea what you're buying and that ought to be sufficient deterrent .
If nothing else there's always the church, they have active groups around here doing all sorts.
There's even a walking group that walks around the local park.
Life is what happens to you when you're making other plans, sometimes you can't see things that are right in front of you because you're too busy looking for something better.
Am I helping ????
Carolyn
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Hi Carolyn, thanks for your advice! I guess I’m just trying to reach out to services that are available, I’ve contact McMillan but sill waiting for them to get back to me. I just need some support on how to deal with my feelings in a better way.
Do you you know if McMillan offer after care for people that have had family members pass of cancer? I heard somewhere that thsy offer services after so many months after.. if you have any information I’d love to hear from you!
thanks again, I Value your adices & if I had a little more support & sense of belonging in life (grounding myself perpahs) The drugs (which isn’t a lot) would phase out I’m positive.
there's the helpline, the staff are very friendly and kind, I called them when I was first diagnosed, they were very patient while I sobbed down the phone.
Macmillan as a charitable organisation offer lots of advice to lots of people who are affected by cancer but if cancer affects 1 in 4 that's a quarter of the population which is around 60 million people, so about 15 million people, and they do look for volunteers.
I found helping people via this online community therapeutic, it has helped me work through the issues I faced during diagnosis and treatment and afterwards.
What type of cancer did your mum have?
Carolyn
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Thank you, I will be calling to get some help, really appreciate your empathy.
So sorry to hear about you being diagnosed :( I hope you’re coping better than me! Are you coping okay?
It all started as arthritis then she started to collapse & lose her mind which the doctors basically ignored this problem calling it old age etc.. After a week or 2 she go worse & we admmitted her to A&E where we found out she had brain tumour, lung, back, & bones & was spreading quickly. She was riddled, put it that way. We wouldn’t let animals die the way she did, that’s whats get me :/
I’m not sure where you stand on selfmedication but we were using Cannab-is oil to treat my mum when the doctors failed to do anything quick enough. Chemo & radio therapy didn’t seem to make any difference but make her more sick. & by the time they offered immunotherapy, she was far to sick by the time they offered. (Sure they knew so they just drew things out) how it felt anyway. I noticed when she had her brain tumour (before we knew it was that) I gave her a puff on my “fag” & she went from taking complete nonsense & frustrated to the free flowing relax person we knew making total sense & it was a F-ing mirical!
Even when It when came to the last dreaded bit and was told nothing more could be done. She went from being bed ridden & after a few days of oil was able to walk from her bed to get outside 10 minute walk each way from her hospital bed. But sadly she got a chest infection
& please if you’d like anymore info about what I’ve said, more than happy to signpost you, did you hear about the lady that went on “This Morning” last year? I contacted her & she recommended advise with diet & life style. Happy to pass some info to you if you think it would help x
It is distressing to watch how we allow our loved ones to die, I was told that nothing more could be done for my uncle and it still took him two days to pass away, basically starved and dehydrated to the point of organ failure.
I'm sure other cultures deal with death and dying better than we do, have you seen Billy Connolly's Big Send Off ?
As I said, for me, all drugs should be legalised and quality checked.
Medical cannabis will be legal soon, can't be soon enough, it really can't ! If the large pharmaceutical companies could monetise it, it was be legal already, I don't understand why the government would drag their feet when there's potential for billions ££££ in revenue.
Other countries are 'allowing' this kind of use but the supply chain is fraught with problems unless you have a 'friendly dealer', which most people don't. Your mum's last days on earth were made slightly better by making use of cannabis then why not legalise it?
Farm the milder versions and make it readily available.
There will always be a small percentage that abuse it but there always was and that won't change.
I watched a documentary by Bruce Parry on what was essentially fair trade cocaine.
He makes a very valid point that the people involved could make a decent living and stop polluting their drinking water if their crop was regulated and they were paid a fair price for it, rather than being at the mercy of the cartels.
Cocaine is a natural local anaesthetic and a dentist confided that it's much more effective, less damaging and less likely to cause an allergic reaction than the synthetic versions he's forced to use nowadays.
I didn't see the This Morning prog. You can message me if you like.
Carolyn
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