Hey,
I'm new and very overwhelmed, so please forgive my incessant ramblings.
I am a mother of 4 wonderful children, ranging from teenage years down to our beautiful baby of 8 months. I dote on my babies, they are my world. I also have the most amazing and perfect partner known to man (or beast). I am, indeed, a very lucky woman.
I suffer from bipolar disorder which I maintain with no medication, and ride the waves as they come. I choose this method as I am still nursing my youngest. We enjoy lots of cuddles, opting for baby carriers over prams, as they make feeding easier, and also have helped with bonding, of which I had issues with in my past. I know it's not for everyone. I suffered from severe pnd after my first child, rejecting for a long time. nursing and baby wearing has always helped me over come this issue in the past.
Yesterday we received my diagnosis of NHL... and it has devastated us. Tonight is my final night of nursing and as I lie here looking at my baby, I feel a pain I've never felt before, I don't even have words to describe it. I feel lost. I know 8 months is a long time, and I am grateful for that, but I'm terrified the same thing will happen. I don't want to lose my bond with her. The thought of her rejecting me hurts so badly, or I her. I think we will both miss our closeness.
Has anyone else gone through this at all? Does anyone have any advice on maintaining closeness during chemo? Or just any advice about babies/children and NHL? I know it's very treatable, for which I am very thankful, but it is very daunting and very dark at the moment. I'm very hazy.
TIA
Hi TIA and welcome to the Community but so sorry to see you finding us and I am sure that some mum’s will pick up on your question and give you some support.
When it comes to NHL I was diagnosed with my rare type of NHL in 1999 and I am still around to say this can be overcome.
There are over 80 types of NHL but we do have a few NHL support groups - see below
General Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma
Do join the best group for your NHL by following the link I have created then hit the ‘Join This Group’ tab just under the main group name, then go to the 'Start a Discussion' tab and set up your very own Discussion and introduce yourself to the group and ask your questions.
When you feel up to it try putting some information in your profile. This really helps others when answering. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. Just click on YOUR username, select 'Edit Profile'. Put as much or as little in your profile and you can amend it at any time - you can see members profiles by hitting our forum names.
I will keep an eye open for you on our NHL groups ((hugs))
Thank you so much! I'll join the correct group. I wasnt sure if I had posted properly. I'll update my profile now. Thank you for your speedy reply! X
Hi again, yes your post was spot on.
The New to Community is like the front door to The Community and folks like myself will help you find the best place to get support - talk later.
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