My husband has a stoma but has become very weak as he has terminal cancer 

Hes not changing his stoma bag regularly and he wont let me or anyone else help him change it

Im really scared he’ll get sore but he’s so stubborn i dont know what to do

any ideas?

  • Hi 

    It sounds like a very difficult position you're in with your husband not allowing you, or anyone else, to help him change his stoma bag. I'm afraid I don't have any suggestions but I noticed that your post hadn't had any response yet.

    Could I suggest that you perhaps also post this question in the Carers only forum group, which I can see you're a member of, as I'm sure there'll be members in that group who will have been in this position with a partner not wanting help.

    When you have a minute, it would be really useful if you could pop something about your husband's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.


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