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Childhood bereavement

Olivia7
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Hello,

Is there a group on here specifically for childhood bereavement?

I lost my mum to breast cancer when I was 8. At school, I was always 'that girl' who didn't have a mum, I always felt different and was once told by someone I thought of as a friend that I only had friends because people felt sorry for me. We were still children when this comment was made, but it that has never really left me.

I am 27 now and there are very few people in my life that I have the confidence to tell that I lost my mum. I'm not ashamed of it, I loved her very dearly and miss her every day, but I get so nervous that people will immediately feel sorry for me and make all their judgments about me because of that. Not to mention the awkwardness when someone genuinely wants to know about your family and asks 'what does your mum do?' or the more topical one at the moment 'what are you doing for mothers day?'. How do you answer that without (a) making them feel guilty for bringing it up when they hear the answer and (b) not shutting down the rest of the conversation. I haven't lost my mum in recent years so people I work with didn't know me when it happened and therefore they didn't know about it, it's been a part of my life since before I can remember but why is it so hard to tell people?

Olivia

latchbrook
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Hi  and welcome to the online community

I'm sorry to read that you lost your mum to cancer when you were very young. It must have been very hard for you.

There aren't any groups here specifically for children facing bereavement as, for the protection and safety of children, the Community does not allow members under the age of 16 years. However, there is the bereaved family and friends group where I'm sure you'll find others who will understand the feelings that you have.

To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

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