my beautiful mum has gone page 2

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hi susan and amanda, been having problems posting on the other post so thought i would carry on here and see if it works!! how has your weekend been? susan do things feel a little easier for you this year or not really? i feel so sorry for you having all those people around you last year when i bet all you wanted to do was run didnt you? its awful with christmas coming isnt it i even go shopping online as to not have to go shopping with all the xmas things about. i feel so selfish and bitter at the moment and dont want to, i can hear my mum saying come on karen dont be like that but its hard isnt it. i feel so lonely tonight i just want to talk and have a cuddle and a kiss with my mum, sometimes it really hits even harder doesnt it? speak to you both soon, and hope you are bearing up. we all need each other dont we? my love and thoughts are with you love karen xxxxx
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    hi susan,

     

    i just read your last post to louise about your mum and just wanted to say what a wonderful  daughter you are and your mum and dad would have been then and still will be so proud of you!!

    love karen xxx
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    Hi Everyone, Karen, Amanda,Jayne,Susan,Louise- just checking in quickly to say hello to you all.You lot are all amazing people- reading through all your posts is a big help to everyone who is coping with the loss of someone close.

     

    Louise--it takes a very special person who is willing to lay their feelings so bare and i'm not sure that you realise just how much it can help others.When i'm having a bad day and cant stop crying, i think about how you've been feeling and i realise that i'm not alone.others are going through the same and i'm sending you lots of warm wishes as you go through each day.Take care.XXXX
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    hi marie jane,

    great to see you. hope you are ok.

    thank god we all have each other here, we can all identify with each others feelings cant we? as sometimes you think your going mad about how you are feeling and acting dont we? but then we come here and see other people going through exactly the same thing, then we can think we are not so mad after all.

    take care and speak very soon, lots of love and hugs karen xxx
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    hi jayne,

     

    hope you are feeling a bit brighter.

    i would love to hear of your spiritual beliefs sometime, as i believe very strongly too.

    i go to the spiritualist church sometimes, and have had a message from my mum and dad, and it is so comforting at the time isnt it?

    we are going to see colin fry on the 17th october which is ironic as its my dads anniversary of his passing, so hope that is a good omen.

    take care of yourself, speak very soon, lots of love and hugs karen xxx
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    Hi Karen and thanks

     

    Sounds as if you did well tonight - not a pound gained and you're sounding as if you're taking it all in your stride which is great.

     

    I hope to see you soon,

     

    Love Susan
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    Hi Jayne,

    Thank you for message, and I hope you had a lovely meal, where did you go to? I guess with Nick and Jay moving though of course we will go and visit them it will probably be quite long between visits just because of distance and kids. Though Nick will probably be coming back and forward as he sets up his business over there. I will just have to wait and see how things pan out. My dad on the other hand will def be back and forward if job goes ahead over there and we can visit him often. My mum and dad had been in process of buying a little place in Spain and it all went through this time last year - just as mum went into hospital. We never thought mum would not make it out there to see it finished, but we all decided that we would like to keep house because she loved it out there and it was where we wnt for our last holiday together in Dec 05 (we were supposed to stay in their place but it wasnt ready), it was a lovely holiday - with mum, me Aaron and my mums sisters (unfortunatly my dad was working and it was a girls holiday with exception of Aaron - I was 30 weeks pregnant so no Josie then!) So that area holds lots of special memories for me and Aaron (and dad because they had been there quite a few times before picking area) so it nice to be able to go back there often.

    How are you doing? I hope that you are feeling okay and that your interview goes well, well done for applying for a new job it was def right move walking away from last employer, I am sure you will be much happier in a new post.

    Take care for now speak to you soon
    xxx Lots of Love Amanda
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    hi amanda,

     

     

    great to see you again, i hope you and your family are ok.

    sorry you are having a bad time of things at the moment and everything keeps mounting on top for you.

    the new year has seemed to make everyone feel even worse hasnt it? i think personally the new year is harder now because our parents wont be here to see 2007 and it makes there losses more real and you feel even further from them, do you feel this way too? its all so hard to come to terms with isnt it?

    speak very soon and take care, lots of love and hugs karen xxx
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    Hi Amanda

     

    Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you, it's all changing for you at the moment and it must be very unsettling and it's all at a very difficult time - just what you don't need or want.  Even though on the one hand you can be quite objective about your dad's needs and your brother's, I'm sure all of that is just unbearable.  As Louise has said she could not manage anymore changes - all the securities we had are or have changed and it's very difficut to accept them.

     

    I'm sorry Amanda, I imagine that your emotions are all mixed and all you want is for everything to be as it was.  Even your own family is changing as Josie grows and Aaron develops into the little man.  There is no need for you to feel as if you should be "further on", you are where you are and that is how it is - nothing change speed up the process, it all takes time even without all these estra pressures and worries.  Everyone will know you are doing your very best and that's all you can do,don't expect too much of yourself too soon - you have a lo to think about and consider nd you'll need space and time to reflect on that.

     

    You've been great here Amanda for everyone and we all need each other at different times - I wish I could say or do something that could make it all just a little easier for you but I can only send you my love, my support and my time -I'm here whenever you want to chat xx

     

    Love Susan

     

    PS Please look after yourself just now! 
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    Hi Amanda

     

    Let's look forward to a meeting one day at old Trafford!  We could lunch and then pretend to be WAGs - I think that's the right spelling!! What do you think Jayne could you just "pretend" for once and not tell your husband!!

     

    Love Susan x
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    Hi Marie-Jane,

     

    Good to see you and you are very welcome, please do pop by and let us know how you are doing.  I know how valuable it can be to be here among friends who are always ready to listen and support.  We're very lucky to have found each other.

     

    See you soon,

     

    Love Susan