My mom has had lung cancer for nearly 4 years. I think we have been a little in denial about her prognosis.
This week they told us there isn't any more they can do for her. Except palliative care and pain management.
She isn't eating.properly and losing weight. She has a bad cold at the moment and currently we r at the hospital for them to check her over.
I feel like I've been hit by a ton of bricks because I feel that something a little more serious than a cold could kill her. I also don't know how long she has left. She doesn't want to know. But I feel.lost, like I don't know whether to be looking to the future or to be expecting the worse at any time.
I have lots of family but they are all concerned about her and I feel like I can't talk to them.
Am I being unrealistic to think she has years left?
Hi Peachy655
Sorry to hear about your mum. When my wife was diagnosed she did not want a prognosis and I really struggled with that. However through the years I have seen many people outlive a prognosis, some people die like clockwork and the question then can be did they give up and die to order and a few people who died early and that can leave people feeling really robbed.
You are always welcome on here, we just get it even if we cannot really answer your question. One thing to consider though is what would you do with the information if your had it. I had to learn mindfulness to help me function well - living day to day and appreciating every one.
<<hugs>>
Steve
Thanks Steve
I appreciate your point of view. You are right, I don't know what difference it would make to me having a timeline.
She got out of hospital yesterday with some strong antibiotics and a plan to start palliative care at home.
Hopefully they can help build her strength back up to keep fighting even longer.
I am just so distracted all the time. I try not to think about it every minute of every day, its just hard.
I can't bear the thought of losing her. 
