Sorry but I'm having a bad day and I just need to let it out. I woke up feeling like I've had no sleep and really down. Mum's been bad this week - a lot of pain and, I think, sliding into depression - so I'm in overdrive on worrying about her. My sister is with her today so I don't need to go round to see mum although I probably will drop round later. I thought I would throw myself into cleaning the house so make myself busy and then I'd start to feel better. My fatal mistake was asking my 18 year old daughter to help. She had a major strop. I tried to keep calm as I realise that she is worrying about my mum too but it was hard. I tried to talk to her but she just got worse and worse so I gave up. Then my husband made sarcastic comments about it all - again he is worrying and his mum is also not well - so I am still trying to keep a lid on it. But I feel even worse now. I'm now sitting on the sofa in my pyjama's watching old episodes of Grey's Anatomy without the will to do anything else. I just keep crying and feel so very very sad.
I better avoid M&S then...
Enjoy your gin. :-)
Elenium
Hi Guys,
Well, Alan's back home. The hospital are treating him with antibiotics for a possible UTI. I also decided to read the leaflet from his codeine as the doctor had upped his dose at bedtime. He went from 30mg to 60mgs!! Some of the side effects listed include Hallucinations √. Confusion √ Nightmares √ Low blood pressure on standing √√√!! So I'm kinda guessing it might be a combination of things.
Let's hope shall we? Small mercies & all that crap!!
While he was in I spoke to the Macmillan nurse & she got the Dietician to see him. Finally!! He's come home with enough supplements etc to open a branch of Waitrose!! None of your FarmFoods cheapies! Although I have to say I LOVE their pizzas!! Nearly as nice as Aldi's
How's the cat today? Mine slept with me last night. Bella must've decided she was safe from the neighbours greyhounds for a few days! Lol
Sue x
Hi Sue,
That all seems a bit more positive and you sound better. :-)
Elenium
Glad you've got him home with foodstuffs. The codeine sounds like a bit of an issue. Can he be prescribed a different pain killer? None of them are innocent mind you. Mum has either diclofenec that is for bone metastatic disease or just paracetamol for her mouth. The diclofenec makes her sweat though.
The cat freaking out because of new shed in his territory. Didn't bite today but there are paw prints on window of new shed.
I seem to have been running around all day.
Tomorrow early start for dad going to dialysis and I'm taking Mum to hospice for aromatherapy. She's weak so it's not easy.
Jx
Mum wasn't too bad today. The wheelchair came and she wouldn't look at it. Had to put it in the shed. The nurse came and brought a Stoma bag for mum to have a look at. She didn't want to look... She also didn't want to look at the book about Stoma's either. Apart from that she was OK.
Managed to do the turf in an hour and a half. It looks pretty good, even if I do say so myself. I had to take photos to show mum as she can't go and have a look.
Had a bit of a panic this morning. Had to get to mum's for 9am because the wheelchair was coming between 9 and 12. I do the food shopping on a Wednesday and I got caught in traffic so wasn't going to get back by 9. I could feel myself getting more and more anxious. It wasd horrible. Still not sure about the tablets but maybe moving towards taking them. Can't start having anxiety attacks on top of everything else...
On the giant chocolate buttons now. Season 3 episode 6 of Grey's.
Elenium
They do giant chocolate buttons?!! I haven't lived.
Your mum sounds very like mine. She refused to read any leaflets on the chemo she has had or on the hip replacement.
When they told her the chemo wasn't working she was shocked as thought she was doing OK even though fatigue weight loss nausea and terrible cough suggested otherwise. I think it's too overwhelming to accept it all at once. For your Mum maybe the wheelchair is a symbol of the whole horrid illness. They are very useful though for saving energy to do the nice things.
I would have felt anxious too. The tablets are there if need be. You don't need to decide immediately.
Dad been ill today too. Mum v weak but ate a bit more.
I had row with wheelchair Co. then fixed the issue myself.
Up early tomorrow. .
Night all.
Jx
I don't blame mum. In her shoes perhaps I would be the same. I just can't wait for the hospital appointment. I just hope she can have the op and then not have so much pain.
What's the betting my brother doesn't get to mum's earlier tomorrow...
How are you doing?
Elenium
Keeping all crossed it goes well for her. Try road testing the wheelchair with her when she'll let you.
I felt sick and anxious in the night.
Feel bad can't help Dad today the hospital he dialyses at is in the news as under special measures and his treatment from today is now in a chair not a bed as his ward was shut down as inadequate. Treatment's now in a portakabin. Chair will be painful for him. There are no beds. He needs a fuss making.
Mum coughing up wet froth last might. I just checked... she is still with us this morning. Taking her for aromatherapy this morning at hospice.
Dad just leaving he does this four times a week for four hours. He's 80 and has to go in on his own as mum so ill. ..all v unfair.
Am knackered.
Cat staring through window not blinking.
Jx
Your poor dad. It must be rotten.
Has your mum had aromatherapy before? Does it help at all?
I feel bad not telling my mum that I've been signed off work but I don't want her to feel bad. Part of me also thinks that I could be round there but I know that the whole point of having this time off is to cut down on my stress and not add to it.
And I've just trod on my dog's tail and made her yelp.
I think the cat loves you...
Elenium
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