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Emotional issues

Cancer can be emotionally draining, but sharing your feelings can help you and others in your situation. Talk about it here.

Emotions

LWH
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I am new to all this but feel I need to talk to people in the same or similar situation. 

I am nearly at the end of my journey the cancer is gone from my left breast and I am having radiotherapy form the clean up just in case. 

So now all my friends think I am cured and it is all okay but I some days feel worse depressed and tearful and scared of the future than when I was given my diagnosis.  I feel it is when and not if it comes back and even had a nightmare that it came back. 

Do you feel the same?

My husband is very supportive but felt I should reach out and talk to others as well.

LWH
winkers60
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Hi,I feel similar.My cancer was a rare aggressive type in the bladder.The bladder was removed last September and I don’t need any further treatment.I’m recovering well but still feel overwhelmed and tearful at times.I hope you will find some friendship and support on these boards.Love Jane xx

Thehighlander
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Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us.

Don't focus on what people think, you need to focus on yourself and on getting through this. I am over 4 years post treatment and even now people just do not know what I have been through and often say the post stupid things.

I t would be good for you to talking with people who are on the same journey as you so can I direct you to this link to our very supportive Breast cancer group as this will open up your concerns to a wider audience who know exactly what you are going through at the moment.

To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

It would also be useful for you to have a look his great paper as it does highlight the milestones you will be facing over the weeks and months ahead.

Talking to people face to face can help a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.

You may want to put some information in your profile can help a lot Click here to see how to add details as this helps everyone to see a little about you

Always around to chat.

Mike - Thehighlander

It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

Eliop
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I had similar feelings to you after finishing my treatment last May. Perhaps this isn't the most optimistic thing to say, but I found it got worse!

The problem with me is that I tried to rush back to 'normality'. I did a fairly good job at looking relatively OK post treatment. Nevertheless - and  I don't know how to describe the emotional gymnastics here -  but I simultaneously wanted people to think: 

1) I was fine , AND 2) I was still recovering. 

It's possible I alienated myself from friends; I think I probably still do... Sometimes I feel like I'm a stranger in my own body, and explaining this to friends is difficult.  I can barely understand it myself. 

I guess it takes time...

Like you, my partner is very supportive. I really don't know where I'd be without him. However, my brain is in such a spin and I can't help but worry about things like recurrence. I also worry about how he's coping with all of this. I feel unattractive. 

I don't know if any of that sounds reasonable? I think I just wanted to let you know that other people feel just as crazy/if not more so. Youre in good company x

LWH
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Thank you Jane always good to know you are not the only one.  Take care xxx

LWH
LWH
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Thank you so much my husband sent me the same paper it is very reassuring to know that it is a "normal" reaction.  Take Care xxx

LWH
LWH
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Thank you it is always good to hear other people feel/felt the same.  I have put on lots of weight during treatment but my husband hasn't commented and thankfully my hair is growing back and I actually like it short, something I would never have been brave enough to try. Great to talk x

LWH
Eliop
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I would never have chopped my hair off, either. But I like short hair, too! It's funky. xx