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Emotional issues

Cancer can be emotionally draining, but sharing your feelings can help you and others in your situation. Talk about it here.

Feeling alone!

Kay56
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I am surrounded by family and friends but feeling very alone today, just trying to come to terms with my breast cancer, its all abit surreal.  Feeling anxious about my post op appointment on the 7th Feb and the treatment to follow. Feeling so tired and emotional and its a struggle to get out of bed today.

Anyone feeling like this?

Kay x

Inanna
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Hi Kay

It is a rollercoaster ride to be sure.  The emotions do take a bashing.

You will have these rotten lows but you will be rewarded with good days too.

I am waiting for my op date to have my bladder removed and I will have a stoma bag which I have called Basil

I know it's hard to believe but there are good days

Hang on in there 

Inanna xx

I know that I don't know
buttercup01
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Good luck for your post op appointment

Fear of the unknown is the worst thing. Once we know what we're facing, we find the strength to deal with it.
Chaz81
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Hi

Every week or so, I feel like this. Trying to juggle life, new emotions, family and friends, its a constant jumble in ones head. Sleeping and staying in bed is only natural to escape a wee bit.  But make yourself get up, as hard as it is, get out, go for a wander.  I can maybe suggest seeing a Macmillan psychologist. They very much help process a lot that is going on in your head. It sounds daunting, but worth it.

Best wishes

Charlie mouse 

buttercup01
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Hi

Try "in your area"to see if there's a Macmillan or Maggie's centre near you, where you can talk to someone face to face

Fear of the unknown is the worst thing. Once we know what we're facing, we find the strength to deal with it.
Gsd Rule
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Hi kay, in agreement with Buttercup, try joining your local macmillan, I did yesterday after lots of iffing and butting and not really knowing why I wanted to go. It was great, just being around other people who totally get my struggles, thoughts and worries. it really isn't doom and gloom, sharing stories, good or bad with a cup of tea and biscuits and making new friends. Good luck and stay strong xx

Take care and stay strong xx

buttercup01
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I'm lucky enough to go to a local day hospice - for 12 weekly sessions- 10 till 3 -  then it'll b someone else's turn.

I shall then b able to go to fortnightly social drop in sessions - tea, cake n chat from 10 till 12.

Being able to see my friends makes a big difference. There's also a shiatsu therapist offering sessions too - v relaxing.

Fear of the unknown is the worst thing. Once we know what we're facing, we find the strength to deal with it.
Kay56
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Hi Charlie Mouse,

I do agree with you, its important to get up and get out, even if just for a short walk or having a coffee in a local cafe, we have lots near us.. how would I contact a Macmillan psychologist by the way?

I'm not only dealing with cancer but also the loss of my mum a few months ago.

Kay x

Kay56
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Hi Buttercup,

Thankyou, I do agree. Being with others who are going through the same is important I think.  There is a cancer charity where I live, I went there last week for a lovely scalp and face massage and going again next week. The people there are so kind and lovely, its like being in a bubble from the real world which isn't a bad thing.

I've also got a 'Look Good Feel Better' workshop to look forward to on the 18th Feb. at my local cancer hospital.  They have these all around the country.

Kay xx

buttercup01
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I'd try the "in the area" re a psychologist

or ring the helpline number 0808 808 0000, 8am to 8pm

Fear of the unknown is the worst thing. Once we know what we're facing, we find the strength to deal with it.