Diagnosed at a young age

If you're diagnosed with cancer at a young age, you might have very specific concerns as to its impact - this group's a space for those diagnosed at a young age to share and talk about their experiences with others of a similar age.

Worried parent of a 17 yr old diagnosed last Friday

Frenchhen
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I'm lying here wide awake and scared, listening to my daughter who has finally fallen asleep. We found out last Friday that she has a mass in her pelvic area and are meeting with the oncologists in the local hospital tomorrow. Treatment we do know will be up in Birmingham (we live in Devon) as this is a specialist centre (we have been told).

Apart from that we know nothing else - we have not asked the name of the type she has (and don't really want to know either) we just want to start treatment and take each day as it comes.

She is an amazing young lady and has been in college this week. But she is so so scared and nothing I can do as a parent can get rid of her fears and also stop her pain and heartache having this. We do not understand how or why?

Are there any a parents of teenagers out there? I have searched the site but came up with nothing. Just feeling lonely and need someone else with the same experiences to talk to

suze99
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Hello Frenchhen

Welcome to the Macmillan site. I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. It must have come as a big shock. I imagine your head will be all over the place at the moment. It is still very early days and at the moment you don't know what treatment is planned. It does seem that once plans have been made people find it a little easier as there is a sense that something is being done. Glad you have discovered the Macmillan community as it does seem to help being in touch with people in a similar situation and sharing advice and support. 

I see that you have already joined a couple of groups here. May I suggest that you join the group we have for Parents of children with cancer. This group is designed to provide support to parents who are coping with a child's cancer( this includes adult children who have cancer). It is the worst feeling in the world when your child, whatever their age, is unwell and you would do anything to take away their fear and pain. There is a link here to some of the information we have for parents in this situation. You might like to take a look through it. 

There are a couple of good websites out there for people of your daughter's age. It might be something you can look at together as a family a bit later down the line. CLIC sargent is a charity which provides lots of advice and information for both young people and their parents. Another is the Teenage Cancer Trust. There is lots of information on our site specifically for young people too.

Please let us know how things go and always feel free to post at anytime or use our free helpline. It can often help to talk to someone outside the immediate family when something like this happens.

Take care

Sending a big virtual hug.

Kind regards

Sue x