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How long does it take for post chemotherapy depression to go away, share also your post-chemo experience.

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To all, I have a friend who I met early in her chemotherapy and have fallen for her because of her wonderful personality, understanding, and beauty both inside and out. She just finished her last treatment at the end of July and even before it, the doctors had indicated she is cancer free from her PET scans and I'm so happy for her. In the process of getting to know her, I really have fallen for her and even though she's not at my level because of her chemo and confused emotions, I'm still patient through it and promised her I'd always fight for us.

Her cancer was the more rarer of non-hodgkins lymphomas and so she received heavy doses of chemo and I know it affected her alot. She started chemo in Februrary and I know she has good and bad days, but a couple of days ago she indicated she just needs time to herself and was going to shut everyone out, including friends. She told me though that she doesn't want to call me up in two weeks and me tell her that I don't want to talk to her anymore. She reminded me that I had said that I'd keep fighting for us, even though sometimes it seems like she pushes me away. There's also more to this story, in that I went out of the country for three weeks before her last treatment, I had already purchased these tickets well in advance before ever meeting her, and she understood that. There's no issue there. But the problem is I haven't seen her since I've been back and it's been almost two months. I've barely talked to her since being back because she's been going through so much. With her shutting me (and her other friends or so she says), makes it more difficult. This woman means so much to me and I submitted my feelings for her; even as I write this, it's so difficult not to become emotional.

Anyway, I read on the internet that post-chemotherapy symptoms can begin to disappear 6-12 months after the last treatment but can take years, hence I'm concerned she won't be returning in two weeks. I think the biggest items on her is her depression which I think also stems from low blood counts and pain from the neutripine shots she receives. She takes a tremendous amount of drugs and she has talked to me before very loopy from the drugs and said some really odd things, some very hurtful too. Basically, these are things that she says she feels she is upset with herself and quite honestly, it shouldn't because I totally understand what she is going through and willing to put up with it. I don't know about her other friends, but surely I endure it because I want to, because I support her, and because I feel an emotional connection with her. There is a saying of the best reward received by anyone is the one received after enduring pain to get it.

So my question to you all is what was some of your post-chemotherapy experiences and how long did it take for bring people back into your lives?

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I had symptoms which sound a lot like your friend's, post-chemo. Despite good news from the medics, I wanted to shut everyone out, was having problems getting out of bed and the very thought of the phone ringing seemed to be an enormous pressure I couldn't cope with. No rational reason behind it; no quick fix solutions available. My friends were just like you sound to be: thoughtful, sympathetic and left me alone when I screamed at them unreasonably.

In my case the depression lifted after about 3 months (good news: it was almost overnight!), although of course everyone is diffrent, and your friend sounds as if she's going through the wringer in terms of treatment more than I did. I still have the inexplicable "off week" but it's the presence of people like you with understanding and humour and tolerance that get me going again. You seem to be dedicated to being in her life, which is wonderful for her. I'm certain she knows that, and the day will come when she's able to resume normal human relations. I think the fact that you have come on here and expressed your feelings and asked such intelligent questions means that your relationship will get back on board soon.

If you shove "chemo" and "depression" into the site's search engine you might find a lot more incisive comments than the above. I wish you very well and your friend probably doesn't feel she's lucky, but will one day be able to tell you how very lucky she is to have you.
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People suffering from anxiety, panic, stress and depression should consult a specialist and only then should use the medicine, as there can be various reasons behind the disorder. Medicines used to cure such disorders are habit forming and should be used for small duration. As per my personal experience, I have used Xanax and it helped me in getting over my panic and anxiety disorder. You can have all necessary information about this on Along with medicine, the concerned person should take a break from his/her regular schedule, go out and take good sleep.