Hi all , my dad has stage 4 colon cancer with secondary liver , he was diagnosed in may this year , he is at home ,we care for him as a family ,i have 3 sisters and a brother and we share the care, but we also look after mum ,who had a stroke 2years ago , we have been caring for her since the stroke each taking it in turns one day a week ,dad had been her main carer up until he was diagnosed,now we take care of both of them, mum thankfully is recovering well, but still needs some care as she is scarred by the stroke ,it was a shock when we found out about dad and scary , not knowing what to expect ,we have tried to make dads life easier and as comfortable as possible, but he has gone down hill fast , we now stay over so there is always someone on hand ,hes got all his faculties and very stubborn but its all he has control over ,his body is giving up and this morning he woke me to say he'd had an accident, didn't quite make the commode, and there was blood ,so cleaned him up and he asked if he was bleeding and i just nodded i couldnt speak ,breaks my heart because he knows whats happening to him and he's researched it all so can't camouflage anything, dr coming out to see him today so will have a word with her ,things are only going to get worse, distric nurse comes once a week ,lovely but what can they do run off their feet , we have a palitive nurse but not often maybe once a week , really feeling helpless feel like i should be doing more but what , affecting us all mentaly and physicaly, keep hoping that he'll get better but it never going to happen is it , its been 2hrs now ,hes fast asleep , now my turn ,thanks for the vent x
