I’m really in need of some support and advice from other women in my situation. My husband has been treated for oesophageal cancer, really struggling to eat, lost 1/3 of his body weight, looks about 90 ( he’s only 62). Last week he had a sub arachnoid brain haemorrhage and is in hospital, not doing brilliantly because he’s so underweight and generally poorly. It’s been awful seeing him reduced to skin and bone, using a walking frame, drinking from a cup with a spout, and today I noticed they’ve got him in incontinence pads. I know that when he’s medically stable they’ll discharge him and I’m dreading having to help him with personal care at home. How on earth do we negotiate this sudden transition from being a married couple with a good life to carer and cared for?
