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Should I give up work to carefortermunally Ill husband?

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My husbandhas advanced liver cancer with no further treatment. This was complicated when he had a stroke due to anti cancer drugs leaving him paralysed on  one side.

I have now been off work for 8 months with stress but I am being pestered into making a decision about going back to work.

I have considered asking to work par time but realisticsllycould only manage 3 half days a week andwould havea sitter for him. 

Do to the terminal diagnosis, do you think I should give up work to care full time and claim carer allowance or should I return to work?

Emotions are all over the place and dont really know what to do.

Maureen x

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Hi Maureen,

Sorry to read you are in this position, it is such a difficult choice and I really have no idea how I would make such a decision in your place. One thought though is what does your partner think as I am sure you will have shared important decisions in the past.

Whatever you decide an important part of the decision is to remember to make some "you time". It might help to talk to a benefits adviser