Really need some real advise from anyone who’s been in this position.
I was diagnosed with BC in December 2016, had a mastectomy and chemo, which finished September 2017. I’ve been taking tamoxifen since then. But I’m 40, and feel it’s my last chance to consider having a baby as I don’t have any children. But I’m worried about a few things, mainly that i’ll have a recurrence and not be around for my child. I don’t know if it’s a fair decision or incredibly selfish? I’m not worried about stopping my tamoxifen but I wonder if it would have any harmful effect on a baby given the length of time I’ve been taking it. I also don’t know where to start? I need to get my fertility checked again, and discuss it with my oncologist, but not sure how. Do I contact the breast care nurse who was there through my treatment? It would be nice to hear about anyone else’s experience of pregnancy post BC.
Thanks in advance!
I’m sorry I don’t have any experience of this, but just thought I’d reply.
Do you have a Macmillan centre near you? Mine have been brilliant with me. They will have lots of info. Maybe phone if you can’t get to a centre. They will be able to point you in the right direction, I’m sure.
As for maybe not being around for your child, personally I don’t think we can live by what if’s, We could be run over by a bus but it doesn’t stop us going out. I don’t mean to sound flippant i understand your worries, only you know what’s right for you, I don’t think it’s selfish at all.
Wishing you lots of luck x
Awww, thank you for your kind reply! I think I’m just feeling guilty because not only have I had BC but I’m old too.
Ive been in touch with my breast care nurse, so hopefully they’ll be able to help me.
Wishing you all the best too xx
Violet blue You should not feel guilty about having had BC, it’s hardly your fault. And age is just a number, get help and lots of support from friends or family members. Stay positive.
Im sure the BN will be able to help you.
Thanks for best wishes, let us know how you get on x x
Hello Violet blue
I would say contact your breast care nurse. I was told by mine that they are their for 5 years after treatment so you'll still be on her books. Even if she can't answer your questions she may be able to advise you what to do.
Failing that have you thought about ringing Macmillan Support, Their lines are open 8-8, 7 days a week, the number is 0808 808 00 00 they may be able to help.
Don't let cancer take away your chance of happiness, you say you worry about the cancer coming back? but what if it doesn't and you've lived your life without a baby. Plus if it did come back, god forbid, doesn't mean you won't kick it like last time.
I would also recommend you posting this in the The breast Cancer group as there are more people in there who may have experience of this.
I have just read that you think you're old?? Give over i have friends who had friends in their late 30s early 40s. Age doesn't make a difference, you will love your baby what ever age you are xx
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