i am 2 years on from double mastectomy without recon at the age of 45. I am doing really well in all respects except one.
From the moment I came home from surgery my husband switched off from me. It wasn’t me. I was feeling positive and fairly confident. We had a good relationship in all ways pre-op and I thought we could get through my physical changes.
But we haven’t. He admits that the sight of my chest “does nothing” for him, and since gaining a stone on tamoxifen he’s made it clear that my weight is an issue too. I’m also losing lots of hair on tamoxifen (although I’m not complaining, I was lucky enough not to need chemo!)
We’ve been to counselling together and apart. It has helped us communicate but the main issues remain.
What I need to know is whether anyone else’s husband has had this problem and eventually managed to overcome it? Or are there any husbands on here who can shed light on it? I don’t think I look that bad to be honest.
I don’t want reconstruction and I don’t think it would help.
welcome to the online community, sorry you've had to come and find us
lots of men have a problem with
b) life and death
d) growing up
e) getting over themselves
I'm going to PM you the rest as it's not for public broadcast
real life success stories to remind you that people do survive breast cancer
Thanks for replying, it sounds like you might have some experience of this!
Looking forward to hearing from you,
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