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Bereaved spouses and partners

A place for widows and widowers to share their feelings and support one another.

Sometimes I feel perhaps I shouldnt be on this site.

Geoff999
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Hi Mel 

Not too good. Just been told my mate who had a stroke is likely to pass within the next 24hrs.Tony lost his wife about 15 months ago and I lost my darling 10 months ago. We supported each other because our reactions to grief were identical. Anytime either of us needed to talk from the heart all we needed to do was pick up the phone. Tony never accepted that his dear wife had gone but soon he will be joining her. Bless him. He is my life line and now I'm about to lose him too. My life line because  I'm still grieving over my Anne. So I'm completely messed up at the moment and to be honest tired of life. I just wish I could have a fatal stroke and be done with it all. Sorry to be so morbid. I suppose I needed to talk to someone. 

Love and Light 

Geoff x 

At the end of all our journeying will be to find ourselves back where we started knowing the place for the first time. TS ELIOT.

sunnyboy
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hey Geoff I'm sorry to hear about your mate and knowing how much he was there for you and you for him . Such a shame please take care tonight remember your Anne with beautiful memories prayers for tony . God bless Geoff

limbo
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Oh, Geoff, you sound so distraught. Please let us know how things go. We can't replace Tony because we're virtual friends but we're friends nonetheless. I don't think I would have survived the last year without this forum. I went through some very dark times but it helped knowing there would be someone listening/reading. Whatever happens, you know we're around. And, as you said earlier, you have your children who love you to bits. When we're in trouble, people tend to show up.

Take care of yourself.

Needing friends
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Hi Geoff,. I've been away caring for my very poorly dad and have just seen your post. I'm so sorry to hear about your good friend Tony. Please keep posting and let us be your confidants as best we can, as you have been ours. We need each other through these flipping awful times xx

Love is eternal
Geoff999
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Dear Needing Friends and others. 

My mate passed over into Spirit today at 12noon. His wife Rene was his life and Tony always said when she passed over 15months ago he would NEVER accept she had gone. And he always said that to me till the end. As a man of 87 he was so physically fit and switched on mentally. He catered for himself apart from his daughter delivering food and supplies during lock down. We became very close after my Anne passed over because Anne worked alongside his wife Rene. Tony and I supported each other because our level of grief matched. So in that sense we bonded as brothers. But he is now with his beloved Rene, Bless them both.

Light band Love 

Geoff x

At the end of all our journeying will be to find ourselves back where we started knowing the place for the first time. TS ELIOT.

sunnyboy
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hello Geoff That's sad the passing of your good friend Tony I've been praying for him in the past couple of days I'm so sorry Geoff and hope you keep it together, tony and his beloved rene together again if true id be happier. Take care you .

Nandy3
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Hi Geoff,

Really Sorry to here of your friend Tony, take care,

Mandy

xx 

Geoff999
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THANK YOU EVERYONE for your prayers, condolences and kind words. I'm in a very confused state of mind at the moment because I'm now grieving for my mate Tony as well as grieving for my sweet heart Anne. Thoughts, feelings and emotions flitting from one memory to another.

Light and Love 

Geoff x

At the end of all our journeying will be to find ourselves back where we started knowing the place for the first time. TS ELIOT.

martin e
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Hi Geoff 

Sorry for your loss be good to yourself  and look after your self  I lost my best friend 3 years ago to cancer he was all ways when I needed I could of done with him now to buck me up some days 

take care 

Martin 

Needing friends
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Hi Geoff, I'm so sorry. Please keep strong and safe for your family and your friends, who I hope we are.. Xx

Love is eternal
Ebony12
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Hi Geoff

so sorry to hear about your friend passing.

sending strength and hugs.

karen

Grief is the flip side of love
limbo
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Hi Geoff,

Like everyone else, just wanted to say how sorry I am.

Am sending you back light and love.

Take care of yourself.

Akela2516
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Hi Geoff

Sorry for your loss. It is a double blow to loose another person so close to you.

Stay strong, we are all here for you.

Love and hugs Alison xxx

AliG55
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Hi Geoff,

I was so sorry to learn of the death of your friend Tony.  Life, as we all know, is so cruel.

Please take care if yourself.

Ali x

orchardmead30
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Hi Geoff I am so sorry for your the loss of your friend. Life can be so cruel and we wonder how we can survive. Sending you love and hugs to you. Please keep in contact with us all. xxx   Carol  xxxx

Carol