Bereaved spouses and partners

A place for widows and widowers to share their feelings and support one another.

Tiredness

Koli
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Thought there was something wrong don't want to do things have to force myself after I lost my husband of 27 years to head send neck cancer

Wife0f26years
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Dear Koli 

No there's nothing wrong what a thing to think the trauma and physical  and emotional affects of all you have been through take a huge toll.  Take care rest eat if you can drink and I mean water if nothing else. Give your mind and body a chance. Grief  affects us all ways.

 Anything else  after a few days can't eat or drink ring Drs. 

Do what is essential  anything else can wait. If you have friends family ask them to shop ect.

Thinking of you 

Koli
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Thank you so much I work so that keeps my mind off but I come home to a quiet house hAve no family but plenty of friends but sometimes justhe love my own company.My husband passed on my birthday May 21st 2018 I was with him 13 days in the hospital before he passed then 3 weeks later his sister passed she was 52 I have never felt so useless in all my life

Wife0f26years
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I'm so upset that you feel useless. I understand your life has may be lost a focus and purpose but to go through all that and also lose your husband's  sister so close together. You are working which hopefully is a good thing? Are they supportive? Do you work a lot of hours? 

I appreciate with friends it may be difficult but hope you might invite to your home or just a cuppa out somewhere.  

Did you take much time off when everything happened? 

Take care xxx

Koli
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Everyone has been marvellous and so supportive I was off 3 weeks with everything after the funeral I went to see my sister in law then she passed a week later but least I saw her Martin had throat cancer which spread to his neck then he haemorrhaged For my 60th I am having a 60s 70s disco Elvis impersonator and raffle in aid of Cancer Research UK