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Bereaved family and friends

For anyone who has lost a family member or friend to cancer to share their feelings and support one another.

Mum

KrissyJ1
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Hi Everyone . It  is lovely to meet you all. I recently lost mum she had breast cancer which spread to her brain . I am 21 years old .  I can't stop thinking about her and the moment I loose distraction I cry because she is always  on my mind . I miss her so so much she was so amazing gentle and loving . It was so heartbreaking to see her go from a healthy human to someone who could not speak or walk . I love her so much and I know she is always here with me . It would be really nice to talk to  people on here and listen to their experience. God Bless you all .

Krissy
Chedder2020
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I'm 31 and lost my mum last week I feel your pain. I'm handling it totally differently and not really crying or upset... I'm assuming it's Gona hit when funeral comes.. but if it doesn't seriously what's wrong with me...luckily I have my kid as a distraction otherwise I think I might thinking about it all more  dont really have any advice as still new to me and not really dealing with  I don't think. 

KrissyJ1
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 Grieving  can come in all different emotions. Please dont feel your reaction to your mum death is not normal as it totally is and it proberbly has not hit you yet . The first week I was in shock and I didnt cry on the first night at all as its a shock. It hits you later on and day by day you get more memorys of your mum and you will start to miss her alot . The funeral you will definitly get upset for sure . When I went to my mums funeral it was really really heartbreaking . If you need someone to talk to I am here for you okay ! Sending love xxxx

Krissy
Chedder2020
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Gona be a strange funeral with this covid19 malarkey

KrissyJ1
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Yes definitly !!

Krissy
Pot_noodle
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Hi Chedder, sorry to read that you lost your mum, especially in these crazy times. My dad died 3 months ago, and I just wanted to get in touch as I also didn’t cry the day he died. I didn’t even cry at his funeral even though I felt like I was trying to! The tears have definetly started now though. I can cry at anything these days. I’ve been crying at rainbows in windows, and Boris thanking his nurses! My point is grieving doesn’t always look the way we think it will and that’s ok. Don’t feel like you have to display a certain type of grief, as your own grief will come to you in ways you don’t even expect. Look after yourself! Pot Noodle 

Cupoftea
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I am sorry to hear about your mum, I lost my sister last September. I know relationship dynamics are different and I have not lost a parent but I do understand the situation.

I am the strong one in the family so took everything on board to make sure the necessities were done. Also the rest if the family went back to their homes whilst I live close by. I also took on the care of my nephew so that definitely keeps you busy. 

Just be careful that you take time for you when you need it, whether that be in the evenings after bedtime or for an hour having a bath. It's been 6 months now since my sister passed and I am finding things more difficult as time goes on. It's also hard dealing with other people's emotions as well as your own especially when they just hit.

I really do sympathise with everyone during the current circumstances as the support we so greatly need has been removed. 

Do not set any expectations for yourself and do what you can when you can. But most of all be kind to yourself. Everyones process is different. 

Sending you strength, understanding and love.