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For anyone who has lost a family member or friend to cancer to share their feelings and support one another.

Loss of my brother

BrazzerRae
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I'm struggling with the loss of my brother who was 52 and died last week of pancreatic cancer, he leaves behind three children under 16, and a lovely wife.  Due to this virus, I am unable to visit our elderley mother or my elder brother, when we should all be together sharing our grief, it's almost like it's not happened, can't go to a funeral either.

Lmw79
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I know exactly how u feel, I lost the most amazing mum Thursday 26th to ovarian cancer. Cancer is a bitch and the virus is stopping us from celebrating our loved ones lives as they deserve. Our family are looking into live streaming the funeral if possible and having a wake (which will b huge) at a later date, when the country is out of lock down. Please take care and set up social media sites to keep your family connected 

Jet328
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I lost by lovely husband on 12 march just a couple of days before the isolations started. The funeral went from 200+ to 18 and finally only 10 allowed. We had his funeral on friday and i just wanted to say to anyone about to go on this journey ...social distancing when your loved ones are distraught is just impossible...and too big an ask. We are all in our own homes ...doing what we are told...but i desperately want to give our children a hug and they likewise me...its so cruel.

Lmw79
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I’m so sorry for your loss and unable to celebrate your husbands life as it should be, I just don’t know what to say. I lost my mum Thursday just gone and all the time things are changing. I know she will not get the send off she deserves and my dad is left on his own with nothing but phone calls and face time, he needs hugs and face to face, I have my husband and son and my brothers also have family but my dad now has no one but himself in his home

lthenderson
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I know it is little consolation to those of you who have lost a loved one in recent times with the Covid-19 going around. I lost my mom in November of 2018 and per her wishes, we didn't have any funeral. Instead, a year later we held a celebration of life event for her and invited anyone who wanted to come. It turned out to be one of the best things we did during all this process being around so many people who had good stories to tell about my mom and enough time had passed that they brought me joy instead of sadness. Hopefully those of you who have lost somebody recently will be able to experience something similar in the future. 

BrazzerRae
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Still struggling, I havn't really cried, it's as though it's not happened, is this a normal reaction?

Lmw79
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Hey,

Firstly so sorry for your loss.

Grief is a funny thing, we all deal with it differently, I cried so hard when my mum died and I still cry but because you don’t cry that doesn’t make you abnormal. Everyone deals with emotion and loss differently so don’t feel bad for not crying. I would say if ever you feel that things are getting on top of you to reach out, I believe in talking things through. I’m more than happy to support you if you need just don’t beat yourself up x

BrazzerRae
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Thank you x