Bereaved family and friends

For anyone who has lost a family member or friend to cancer to share their feelings and support one another.

Almost a year on...

Essjay88
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I lost my gorgeous Mom on 29th April 2018, it’s almost a year on and I wonder how you felt ?

some days I think I am doing ok, some days not

Hope_29
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I'm so sorry to hear the death of your Mum. Grief is such a head messer, and I think it's perfectly normal to feel ok one day and not the next. I think that can be your own survival instinct kicking in at times - some days are easier than others and emotions can be messy and contradictory. 

Let yourself feel however you need to as a year into grief is still very early days. A year after my Mum died I was still a bit numb/shocked to be honest.

If you need to talk about anything, feel free to do it here or consider talking to family, a friend or grief counsellor. It's normal to plod on for a while and then feel you need to offload to someone. Try to rest and look after yourself when possible. You're doing great x

Sunshine19
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Essjay88,  so for your loss, can relate, xx 

My beautiful mum died 8 months ago. It's been complete ride of emotions. Some days I feel like, I'm doing ok, even positive(defiently agree with hope, something kicks in and you cope). I have got to the stage, i can look ahead and make plans, to make a life for myself. Then I feel proud of my self, because I know that's what my mum wanted, she wanted me, to be making the most of life and to have fun.

But I still have the days, where it hurts so much. I miss her soooooo much, it feels like yesterday. And on them days it feels my world is crumbling. On them days, I remember, It's ok not to be ok. It's taken a while.

The strangest thing I have found. Is how in someways. Others / societys excepts you to be. I have changed so much, my whole life as I know it, as spun on its head. I'm not getting back to normal, I'm rebuilding from scratch a life I knew for 38yrs.  It almost like hidden greif .After the initial weeks, months.  I felt compelled to say, yes "I'm ok doing fine" but now if people ask, I'm honest!! I say today" I'm struggling today." Because actually 8months, a year, even two years, is no time at all, for years and years of love Xx  

Take Care 

Sunshine19
Sunshine19
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 Sorry wanted to add * any amount of years, is no time at all, for years and years of love.  X

Sunshine19