Bereaved family and friends

For anyone who has lost a family member or friend to cancer to share their feelings and support one another.

Lost my mum

Marzi09
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I feel I have nowhere else to turn to.. 

My mum was diagnosed with cancer at the end of OCTOBER 2018, no treatment could be given as it was advanced and her health and well being could never of tolerated it.. She past away on the 5th March 2019 10am, I've never felt so alone and heartbroken.. Everyday since I just don't know what to do with myself..i feel completely lost. 

Toffypops
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Hi Marzi,

Just wanted to reply to you-your post struck a chord with me as my mum was also diagnosed at the end of October last year, and passed away 25th Jan. You are still in the very early days of grief plus we both didn't have much time to get our heads around the diagnoses-your whole world is turned upside down and there isn't time to process things as I found at least we were just dealing with one blow after another, and things moved so fast. Hold on in there and be kind to yourself xxxx

Becbob
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I felt like I had to reply, I have just experienced very similar with my Mum. We found out she had cancer in Nov 2018 and she died in Feb 2019. I’m not sure it even feels real yet, it just happened so quickly. My focus is on looking after my two boys and making new memories with our family, doing things that she would have loved doing. I think about my Mum all the time, I don’t try to be brave, I cry when I need to, sometimes I feel like i’ll never stop, but I also try and think about the things she did that made me smile too. Sending you both a hug. x

Laur
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Hi Marzi09

I am so sorry for your loss but I'm glad you've found the community. There are some lovely people on here to try and help you muddle through this awful time. 

Our story with mum is slightly different to yours but I completely understand how you're feeling. 

My mum was originally diagnosed with lung cancer Jan 2018, told mass had shrunk significantly in July 2018 so just check ups. Then found out in dec 2018 it had spread to the brain, prognosis 12 months. Mum passed away 26th Feb 2019. 

I've found I can be in a crowded room and feel alone. Things have got better in some ways but I spend most of my time feeling numb. 

I hope you have people you can speak to and support you, from experience losing mum has left me feeling like shes taken a part of me with her. 

Sorry for rambling, I hope some of my words may help you but please dont think anything you feel is wrong or abnormal. We all deal with things differently. 

Sending love to you xx