Bereaved family and friends

For anyone who has lost a family member or friend to cancer to share their feelings and support one another.

Dreading New Year

GBear
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, ah Kate I hope you have a great time in Ibiza and carving her name in a tree somewhere on your run sounds really very nice, I am sure she would love that.

  GBear Xxxx 

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GBear
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Hi , I am sorry to hear how your feeling lost and yes its a scary place when we look to the future, but remember its not set, your Mum would be proud of anything you do, your attachments will make her shine every more brighter.

  GBear Xxxx 

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Lou12
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Hi Sunshine

I just wanted to say that I'm sending you a big hug I know it won't help in the least but I'm thinking of you. I haven't been on here much lately and then I saw it was a year for your Mother yesterday. I'm glad to hear your niece was there to sort out games and quizzes for you all, she sounds fab! I'm pretty sure your mother would have be there watching over you all smiling. I hope you are doing as well as you can be today and taking it easy. You're right to take some time out for yourself.

I completely understand the feeling of harsh reality and the concentrating on just getting on the best way you can to get you through the days. It's hard to accept this is it and nothing is going to change. I still think my mother's coming back feels like I'm waiting for something to happen and change. Life goes on and on and we have no choice but to get through it the best we can I suppose.

Ibiza sounds lovely too Kate and the carving of your mother's name in the tree I like that, I always write Mam in the sand whatever beach we go to so she's always with us wherever we go.

Hugs to you all Sunshine, Sunny, Emma, SPu and Gbear.  I'm pretty sure our mother's and friend are proud of how we are coping and carrying on in their memory I know my mother is carried around in my heart wherever I go.

Sending my love to you all, although I don't come on here much I do think of you all often x x x

GBear
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How is everyone doing? 

  GBear Xxxx 

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SPu
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Hi all

Sorry not been on for a while, been really busy at work and trying to cope with the rollercoaster. Only a couple of months off a year since I lost my beloved Mum. Seems to be getting tougher, not easier, as time passes. Milestone moment today. Kept looking at the pile of clothes in Mum’s bedroom and hearing her say “what use are they doing there when someone could make use of them?”. She’s right, of course, I was keeping them because I couldn’t let go of another piece of her. But today I bagged them up and took them to the charity shop including new slippers/shoes she never got to wear. Heartbreaking but at least this way I hope someone can benefit from wearing everything.

Thank you for checking in on us I hope all is well with you and the rest of our little collective.

Love, strength and hugs xx

Sunny43
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Hello all - as SPu said, thank you for checking in on us GBear. It’s nearly a year since I lost my wonderful mum. As you said SPu, it seems to be getting tougher than easier, have been having those big waves of grief days recently. There is no easy way of getting through grief, just have to take a day at a time and know that our mum’s are always with us. I was putting a few things in the charity bag yesterday, managed to put a couple of mum’s clothes in, heartbreaking but someone will benefit and mum would be pleased about that. Hope and strength to you all for the week ahead xx

GBear
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As anniversaries approach then loss can be that be harder too, its good you sent your Mum (s) clothes to a charity shop she would I am sure be happy to help others and every bit really does help. I did a bucket collection once for a charity and this lady came to rather upset, she apologized that she doesn't really carry cash and used her card for her shopping she opened up her purse and emptied all of around 23p and I said to her that, that had meant more to me then anything. I am unsure if she understood as she looked surprised. Its the willingness that counts so much and every penny helps.

I am a mixed bag of emotions but can't decide on something which I know will help but just not sure about it yet. Still processing the news I recently received of another friend who has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer, maybe not as close as my other friend but we used to met up on holiday I dived with his wife and he generally worked too hard. I felt at a lose on what to say or do but I am helping out with advice and its up to them if they except. But I have plunged myself into my art and a new love of photography which I kinda incorporated into my art for painting still trying to get used to my camera and looking for something that inspires me, I like close up photos and amazed at the details you can see as you zoom into a flower petal for example. I am currently painting a tiger in a woodland in snow, not done the woodland but done the tiger.

I hope I don't spoil it, was amazed how it came out. 

Sending gentle hugs to all.

  GBear Xxxx 

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Call the helpline for free on 08088080000, 8am to 8pm everyday.

“life is like a box of chocolates, we search for the good ones first and hope not to have to eat the bad ones"

SPu
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I know what you mean the intent and actions can mean so much more than the monetary value of something. Similarly all the money in the world can’t bring my Mum back but a well timed text or hug from a friend is priceless and means so very much. I too am amazed by the beauty in nature but some people just don’t take the time to stop and look. 

I’m sorry to hear your news. I know that despite your own problems you will always do your best to help others. 

Amazing tiger! You’re really progressing, it’s been great to watch your painting  journey over the past year or so

Take care all, sending positive thoughts your way xx

Sunshine19
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Hey you lovely lot. Thank You, for the kind thoughts and words.  Not been on here much. Last couple of weeks, been manic.

Been a tough, the waves have come hard, from no where, at times. Like when I was standing in the supermarket que on a Saturday, with lots of mum's and daughters everywhere. Tears. Just started rolling. The poor, checkout boy. (It's the popular supermarket, where they just chuck your shopping at you,  he offered to pack for me. bless his heart.) I couldnt speak, just struck at that moment, I would never, have them moments again, even the mundane task of the weekly shop. It's so hard isnt it.  XXX One year on, reality of life without my beautiful mum, is truly sinking in. Not gonna lie, it's hard.  But I have been,continuing with steps towards, the life my mum wanted for me.

Hoping the weather brightens up and I can get out and about, completely agree about the wonder of nature. Don't you think, sometimes when you have experienced, the hardest times. Makes you appreciate the little things in life. Xx I look at the world differently, appreciating little moments and every moment.  

Sending you all the warmest wishes. Xx 

Love the picture as always GBear. Sorry to hear your dad news xx

Sunshine19
Sunshine19
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Sorry meant sad news x

Sunshine19