Bereaved family and friends

For anyone who has lost a family member or friend to cancer to share their feelings and support one another.

Dreading New Year

Sunshine19
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Aww ladies sending lots of love. I can completely relate to the above. It's like I wrote it myself. (Once again) I love that on this thread .You guys get it. Xx Today it feels bitter sweet. I'm looking forward to going way. I'm excited for my holiday. Ready to have lots of FUN. But I have this big lump in my throat and ache in my heart. I just wish my mum was coming too. Xxx

Over the last 24hr. I thought loads," I'll ask mum." "Have I got enough/too much" "shall I take my hairdryer" My dad and my husband look at me blankly. Guess it's a girl thing. I miss our chats. Our phone calls. Just US. Xx  We also would laugh loads and we were soooo, at ease in each others company. I know she would be beaming that we areagoing away. All she ever wanted was us to look after each other and have FUN. So that's what I intend to do. Xx She be with us always. Xx  

Sunshine19
GBear
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A holiday is always something to look forward too, people may laugh but I think we do ask our Mums etc what should I pack, have I enough etc. Its not getting the answers that can suddenly make us sad, the repour, the bond we miss so much. 

Animals definitely understand our thoughts and they know when we are upset and just need that valuable little gesture of comfort. Our Dog that died a few years ago used to come and rest her head on my knees whenever I was upset, animals are great really for coping with grief.   

Remember rubber rings and life jackets available as even ducks need help from time to time as a friend once said to me and I found this really funny picture I will share which simply speaks volumes

  GBear Xxxx 

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SPu
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Oh those ducklings in little life jackets did make me smile  x

K8EH
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Hello lovely ladies

Hope you are all ok? Sunshine - are you still sunning it up on your hols? GBear - LOVE the duck picture. Made me laugh. We didn't make the sock over Easter in the end - we spent most of it outside in the sunshine but I'm storing it up for another rainy bank holiday weekend (not to be negative about our British weather of course)

I just wanted to send you over some good news. Yesterday I got offered a 2020 London Marathon place by a charity called 'Ovacome' they support women who have been affected by ovarian cancer and although they are half the size of Target Ovarian, have actually been going longer. I called them yesterday and just asked simply if they were doing places and they said they decided this year to not do a ballot but offer places to first come first served! I am over the moon and now I am running for another meaning. 

In other news, I finish my current job on the 8th May and start the new one on the 13th - so all go! Have had a few little bumpy waves but the running really helps.

Thinking of you all always,

Kate xxxxx

Lou12
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Hi All, just a quick one

Well done Kate that's fab news what you're got a place in the London Marathon and to be doing in in honor of your mum, I'm pretty sure she would be super proud of you! I'm glad to hear you are enjoying your running too and it helps. Really wish I could get into running myself, doing lots of brisk walking instead ; )

Also good luck with your new job as you said it's all go!  I hope you will be happy in your new job. 

Bumpy waves here too but trying to keep going the best I can.

Hope you are all ok

Take Care

Louise xxxx

SPu
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Hello

In haste...as usual, sorry.....

Fab news ! We will be with you (virtually) every (running) step of your journey!

Sorry to hear about yours and ’s bumpy waves - sending you and anyone else who needs them calmer waves and bigger oars to ride over the bumps until they arrive

Love to all, hope you’re all ok

xxx

GBear
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Very proud of you , Kate its really wonderful thing to hear you got a place in next years London marathon, its harder to get a place then people think. So its a fantastic achievement and Mum will definitely be proud looking down at you and giving you strength to finish it.

Life jackets and dingles coming your way . Hope its enough to keep you a float during these bumpy seas you find yourself.

How are you all , and ? I hope your all doing alright, remember dingles and life jackets willing to be provided.

I am going though a bit of a rough patch at the moment I miss my friend so much at the moment. But I know this wave will pass. I am off to wales and seaside Friday till next Tuesday a great distraction really, the weather fingers crossed is suppose to be OK, so see what happens really.

Big hugs to all

  GBear Xxxx 

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Sunshine19
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Hi guys, xx

Yes still on my holibobs. So relaxed. Weather dry but over cast. Not stopped us xxx.

We have walked miles. Such a beautiful part of the world. Poor old Stanley is shattered. So are all of us. Its, all that sea air and a lovely dinner and a few glasses of fizz. Everyone is in bed. My fella snoring before head hit pillow. Don't think I'll be long. Xx 

Had my waves, this week, This was where my mum and dad came on their, last holiday. She loved it and always talked about us coming here. But that makes me very sad. Then I remember she told us to have fun. Xx She would love all we been up too. Xx She would love Stanley, has been racing around on the beach like a loon. That we are all relaxed and happy. She would be over the moon, my dad is smiling and laughing (as we all are) We so needed this XXX Time out to be us. Shame my sister and family couldn't come for various reasons. We miss them loads. Next time. Xx Wish I could remember, how to share a picture. I would of Stanley on his holidays. Xx 

Awww Kate that's fantastic. XXX My cousins both are running in memory of my mum and their dad. For a charity that supported us, with a home from home. Whilst mum was in hospital, enabling us to be by her side in toughest times. Xxx So I will definitely be in London, cheering them on.

I will cheer you, on too XXX Such a great day and for fantastic causes. Xx

I'll have to think of a novel way of you spotting me. We normally stand at Shadwell, as you can see two points from here.  Aww GBear sending a hug. Xx Have a relaxing break. I really under estimated, how much I needed it, till I was here. Xx Grief is exhausting and time and space is important. 

As I started writing this. I had to stop.

One word. Stanley!! 

I was up with Stanley, three times last night, I think his unsettled sleeping in a strange place. So tonight within, 5 minutes his at the door, crying. Must admit I've caved, opened the bedroom door and put his bed at the bottom of our bed. He is now snoring too!! I need a good night sleep. Such a little prince.  

Wishing you a calm week aheadXx 

Sunshine19
Sunny43
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Hello SPu and all

I needed those big oars last night, such a big wave hit me. Calmer today. Fantastic news about Kate isn’t it, we are so pleased. Glad that your having a relaxing time Sunshine. Your right about grief, it is exhausting, after that big wave hit me, I went straight to sleep. Love the little picture GBear and have a relaxing time when you go to Wales, fingers crossed for the weather.

Thinking of you all

xxx

Sunny43
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Wishing you all a peaceful bank holiday weekend xx

SPu
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Hey all

I hope you are enjoying your Welsh break and managing to get some rest.

Also hope you had a good hols. Stanley sounds like a right tonic.

Sorry everyone is experiencing big waves. Arm bands coming your way.

My first birthday without Mum tomorrow. Although I was out for dinner Friday and been out today I have nothing planned for Sunday. Will try and go for a walk. Had a moment remembering being in hospital last year and Mum asking one of the nurses to buy a card for me - I can’t find where it got put and I’m panicking we left it behind. Not that Mum was able to write in it herself at that point but it was still the last card from her.

Anyway, love and hugs to you all xxx

Sunny43
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Hi all - arm bands much appreciated SPu. Will be thinking of you tomorrow - the firsts are always difficult. It was my birthday in March, just had a quiet day with dad, sister and niece. I think going out for a walk is a good idea. My sister took me out for a ride in the car to the beach, always calming to see the sea,

Love to you all xx

Sunshine19
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Hey guys,

Thank you had SPu, We had a lovely relaxing break Xx Stanley certainly is. Xx Back home tonight. His at my dads, I feel lost without him. Xx 

Awww, sending you birthday wishes and warm hugs, for tmrw. Xx A walk sounds perfect.xxx  

Had a fantastic week. Sometimes, I think, you don't realise, you need something, until you do it. Xx I soooooo needed this, time out. XXX 

Was lovely, we could spend time with my Dad and Stanley. 

I thought  of my beautiful mum lots and I was tinged with sadness, as she want me to go with her. Xx Sadly that couldn't be. I felt comfort in she loved it there. And would have loved that we laughed, chilled and enjoyed each others company She would love her crew, looking after each other and having FUN.

My dad spoke of my mum lots and lots. We shared lots of memories and laughed at things, she would say. I know for me, this is so important. For my dad too. Xx

Feeling tired tonight. Xx so PJ's, dinner and Early night. Xxx

Sunshine19
GBear
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Some arm bands your way anniversary's are always hard especially your first. Hope you do find the birthday card as I know you would feel better to see it, it has meaning to you.

One of my passions is traction engines they simply fascinate me, I was feeling very strangely emotional to see them, felt a total prat for having tears in my eyes.

I feel it has an appropriate name 'Foremost' we keep our loved ones in the 'foremost' of our minds, but they also know however we remember them love lasts forever.

hope you and Stanley had a good walk, I hope the weather is kind.

Big hugs to everyone

  GBear Xxxx 

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GBear
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Happy Birthday for tomorrow

  GBear Xxxx 

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