Bereaved family and friends

For anyone who has lost a family member or friend to cancer to share their feelings and support one another.

Dreading New Year

Lou12
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Gbear I love the picture it is beautiful I'm sure your friend's wife will love it. Love the bunny too he's so cute!! Wish I was good at art.

Hope all the Macteam are doing ok. X x x

K8EH
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Maybe I’ll suggest to my sister Wendy, about making one. She loves doing these sorts of things with Freya. We may need to take a screengrab and have yours near us as a reference. I’ll take a picture If we manage it - do send us a picture of the hedgehog. If it goes down the pan, can we buy the hedgehog?

Thanks for inspiring us GBear xxxxxx

GBear
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Sure I will share the picture of the hedgehog, I am sure its planned for next month. Plus I honestly look forward yo doing it too, I love hedgehogs.

  GBear Xxxx 

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Sunny43
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Thank you for sharing the pictures with us GBear, they are lovely. Your friend will love the picture. Looking forward to seeing the picture of the hedgehog. Xx

Sunshine19
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Bit of loading guys. Sorry. Xx 

Just today had a bit of wave today. Xx As last couple of days, there's been so much I want to ask my mum's advice on. I just want her opinion and wise words. My mum was honest with me and always said as it was. In a way she was often the voice of reason. Just some bits at work and some things at home. She tell me if I was overthinking, she was just a listening ear. Always had my back, but never sugar coated things and told me how it was. Of course I have my dad, sister, fella and a select group of friends. But nothing compares really. Xx

In the mid of the wave, myself and my father in-law. Had very heated words. (He lives with us and its been tough lately, I think, it's because he is elderly and can be demanding.  He likes things in set way andahe has aalot if timeton his hands, so can stew overthings.  He just pushing my buttons, so I said a few home truths.  We made up in matter of half hour. But it's felt really odd all day. I known what my mum would say. She would see both side and make me see reason. But also give encouraging words. XXX 

So tonight I feel very sad. I just miss my bestie ,(my beautiful mum) who would be there in the good times and the hard. Xx 

Sunshine19
Sunshine19
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Meant unloading xx 

Sunshine19
Lou12
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Morning Sunshine and all,

Hope you managed to have a restful sleep Sunshine, just wanted to send you a virtual hug.

Know what you mean about your mother having your back totally. My mother was also a great listener and after talking to her you would just feel better. I've realised now how much she did listen to us all and not glaze over with boredom or turn the subject around to herself as I've noticed a lot of people do. You just know your mother will always have your best interest at heart. Also like you I have a partner and other family members but it's just not the same as talking to your mother who knows the very bones of you.

I'm glad you made it up with your father in law, sometimes i think it does helps to clear things out by having words.

I had moments the last few days where I've just wanted my mother (well more than moments). One of my oldest friends who only lives up the road sent her husband in to drop something off for my kids while she sat in the car outside. I haven't seen her for ages. I know it's a silly thing but it really upset me that she couldn't even be bothered to call in for five minutes. The first person I wanted to tell was my mother. 

Anyway sorry to 'upload or load' also .  Trying to tell myself to pull myself together. Thankfully the sun is shining brightly here today and that does help me a lot. I hope you have a better day today.

Take Care

Louise x x

K8EH
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Hi Lou, Hi Sunshine, Hi everyone  

Completely understood everything you were both saying. I was out in the garden yesterday planting some new plants in the ‘blues border’ mum called it and I remember thinking, how do I put these plants together? How would they sit nicely. It’s a silly thing but she would be able to advise. She had such knowledge and I miss someone who would do anything for us, without wanting anything in return. She was so kind and thoughtful and would always put us first. I thinking I’m riding a similar wave to you Sunshine. 

The only thing I can say though - there have been moments where I’ve thought I couldn’t do something or didn’t know the answer. If you take a moment out, you think about what your mum would have said or done and believe me, you do know the answer because remember - all our mums set us up so we could keep going once they had to go. They showed us things, taught us enough for us to carry on going. So if you look a little deeper, I do think we know the answers and I also think they’re somewhere looking down saying, ‘See, you knew’ So - it turns out, I did know where to put the plants.

Anyway - off to Norfolk shortly. Going to get outside and take in some vitamin D. 

Thinking of you always and sending lots of love xxx

GBear
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Hope you can all enjoy the Easter weekend, it looks like its suppose to be good weather in many areas. I do hope your all lucky to enjoy some lovely warm sunshine. I have been painting again over the last couple of days. I will share it soon, just a few touches I would like to do, but I actually love it. Its a subject I really love and probably do another one. 

Sending virtual hugs to all

  GBear Xxxx 

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Sunshine19
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Hi guys,

Thank you for your kind words ladies. Can completely relate. XXX

It's so hard. Kate your so right.  I remember many years ago when I was in my late teens. (Having a teen moment, most probably about boys or friends. You know teen dramas). I said to my mum " I don't know what I would do with out you, I wouldn't be able to do it" She said "of course you would darling, because your you, you are strong, and everything I taught you or say to you. You will always carry with you. Darling girl." XXX 

Your right if I take a moment, I know exactly what she would say. 

Looks like another beautiful day in the south east. I'm off to work. Have a lovely weekend you fabulous lot XXX Our mums would want lots of laughter and fun. XXX 

Sunshine19
Sunny43
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Hi all - it looks like it’s going to be another lovely day here in the North East. We have a pear tree in the garden and it looks lovely with the white blossom, every time I look at it I think of mum. Spring was mum’s favourite season.

I used to say to mum, I would be lost without you mum, mum would say I’m stronger than I think.  As you said Sunshine, if I have to take a moment, I always think what would mum say/do. Mum’s always know best and are guiding us in life.

Look forward to seeing the painting GBear.

Hope everyone has a nice weekend, make the most of the nice weather xx

GBear
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Hi we have a couple of pear trees and one of them is full of blossom not seen so much before. The weather again was just lovely indeed, so the blooms of spring look ever more beautiful. I love spring its a sign of new life beginning its kinda weird thing but I always look forward to spring to see everything start to spring into new life. My friend loved his garden and his cars, and was pretty ingenious with his creative ideas and it was always nice to see what he and his wife had come up with for the garden. This time of year you see all the new plants starting to bloom the daffodils now starting to go over but other bulbs come up ready to take over, its just beautiful.

And as promised here is my latest painting, one of my favorites.

  GBear Xxxx 

What is a Community Champion?    Womb cancer forum  

Call the helpline for free on 08088080000, 8am to 8pm everyday.

“Don't live in the past, but live for today” 

SPu
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Hi all

Sorry being the Queen of Useless again. I’ve been reading your posts but not getting a chance to reply. Work has been crazy and I’m managing to catch up with a couple of friends I haven’t seen for a while. I prefer it this way, less time to think.

Loving the creativity the sock bunny in particular made me smile. And the paintings are lovely and great to see.

As usual I relate to all the posts. It’s weird isn’t it. We live in different parts of the country, we may have similar or different backgrounds but we are united in our love for our Mums and their love for us. So many similarities in their thoughts and sayings.

Wishing you all a blessed and Happy Easter  

Enjoy the sunshine  

xxxx

Sunny43
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Hello all. Thank you for showing us the picture GBear - fantastic. Like I said, my mum loved spring, a time where the beauty of nature starts to grow/shine. We have a lilac tree near the driveway, that is just starting to bloom with lovely colours. I know what you mean SPu, we all come from different parts of the country, but, we are united with our love for our mum’s. I’m pleased I joined this site, I can write what I’m feeling and you all get it. The kindness and support of virtual friends on here means so much.

Wishing you all a peaceful Sunday xx