What an intriguing bit of reportage! I have to say that I think there may be something of value in it for I, in common with some of my fellows here I am sure, have, to all intents and purposes, been shrinking my world in an attempt to make it more controllable and bearable.
Maybe, at a certain point at least, it is time to start looking outwards, choosing the bigger 'jar', so that we do not stultify ourselves into inaction with our grief?
This is a bit like the 'fried egg' diagram my counsellor uses, the yolk being your grief which always stays the same size but the white over time spreads around it as your life gradually changes.
"no-one wants their grief to shrink...." I think that this is what everyone finds so hard to understand when they think you must be getting 'over it', we don't want to be 'over it' because it IS all we have left.
Thank you for posting this, it helps doesn't it to sometimes look at things from a different angle?
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