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If a member of your family or a friend, or someone else you know is living with cancer, this group is the place to share your feelings and get support.

We're looking for quotes - can you help?

Jazmine - Admin
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Hi everyone,

I'm hoping some of you might be able to help us out with a blog post we're putting together for World Cancer Day (4th February 2018).

We're searching for quotes on two different topics:

  • What's the weirdest thing someone has said to you throughout your cancer experience?
  • What's the kindest gesture you've been offered?

If you've got a story to share and wouldn't mind being quoted in our post, please do reply below. We appreciate all help!

Best wishes,

Jazmine

moomy
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Hi Jazmine,

I might have a bit to help even as a carer, do you want me to email? 

Happy New Year to you in Mac Towers!

Hugs xxx

Jazmine - Admin
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Hi ,

Yes please, that would be great!

Happy New Year to you, too :)

Jazmine

daloni
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Hi 

Two of my sisters were at the opposite ends of the spectrum on this. 

One came over from Dubai (where she was living at the time) while I was having chemotherapy. "I'm here to help out," she announced. "Let me know if there is anything you want me to do. Just don't ask me to do any housework." What was it she thought I might need? A little light trigonometry, perhaps? She spent a week with me waiting on her hand and foot. 

The other came in from Singapore and proceeded to take the whole family out for lunch and mowed the lawn while I had a nap. She was brilliant. 

toxophilite
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I have amazing customers.

I serviced the alarm at one customer's house, the week before my surgery. They were packing to go on a cruise. And yet they still found time to get me M&S vouchers and mail them (via our office) before flying out.

xx

moomy
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Hi Jazmine, decided just to add these thoughts on here.....

I think the oddest thing which happened was just after daughter had had a bone marrow biopsy with sedation, she was still a bit out of it, and wobbly on her feet. The specialist nurse asked us (her carers) if she might need a wheelchair, making the motion of pushing one; before she got the word ‘wheelchair’ out, daughter said ‘a donkey, what a good idea!’ Yes, we laughed! So did she later when she realised what she’d said! 

I think the most moving thing for me as her long term carer, was around 8 years into her long illness, when she was going through a donor bone marrow transplant, was a half hour through-towel back massage, done by the therapy support team, as support for carers, thoughtfully with a box of tissues to hand, as I bawled! It was just so therapeutic having a caring touch,  just for me! 

Hugs to all xxx

mrsox
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Ello Jazmine..

At work we have only one bloke who works with us, there is 33 all together. He knew my brothers so we hit it off straight away. They were bus drivers.

Me and him always have a gud laugh to a piont we end up not being able to breath and plus hes a miserable sod like me, and we polish are boots!!! We take pride in in. He said "when your chemo starts we can av a shiney head n shiney boot competion pal." 

Last week  he sed " pal its not gud wat ur goin through, you will get through it cos lets face your a fighter".

Then he says " keep a shine on those boots and keep goin forward" 

 Very apt, 

Besh wishes for the new year chik. Xxx

Jazmine - Admin
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These are all brilliant! Please do keep them coming :)

Jazmine

ronstar
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Hi

The most kindness I received was from my work colleagues - on my last day before treatment I got told my manager wanted to see me urgently so I went to the office and they were all there, grinning, with a massive basket of gifts - all sorts of things they had all contributed individually, but very thoughtful - things to do like puzzle books and knitting, nibbles to take to chemo, lovely toiletries, a massage voucher, just loads of things. We all cried! One of the nicest things was a few of them had written their phone numbers down with offers of help even though they live miles from me, and lots of them would text me every so often during treatment to see how I was, take me for coffee etc. The thing was, I only ever worked there occasionally and barely knew them, but they were much kinder than a lot of the friends I have had for years.

Most of the weird things that were said to me were by the medical professionals so probably not what you are after- I think they must just get bored with saying the same things - the one that makes me laugh is pre-op having a heart ECG the tech asked me what operation I was having and when I said mastectomy, he asked "oh - is there any reason for that?" I can only assume he wasn't really thinking.

R

Drag1964
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Hi

2017 is yesterday good and bad memories. 2018 is a great mystery. Myself and my brother both have cancer, his 3rd type in 10years, 2016 was my fist diganosis, 2017 found out had 3 types as well, still here 4 surgeries later, more to come. Changes your whole outlook on life weird. Life is short gonna make every second count Y NOT.........

David

Bippy
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Happy New year everyone

The weirdest comment I’ve had was at a social do over Christmas, someone asked me how I was and explained that I was undergoing treatment for BC . I explained I had 2 operations and 15 sessions of Radiotherapy but fortunately I had not had to face chemo. She looked puzzled and then said “not proper cancer treatment then ?” Thankfully my daughter needed my help so I excused my self before answering... still wondering what the heck she meant ... weird

Jennyicb
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Many weird things were said along the way durig my Mums life with cancer.

Memorably for us ...when my Aunt said to my sister "she just needs to get to see over this bit"when her remaining kidney had stopped working and we'd just told her.


Kindest gesture was my friend repeatedly just sending food shopping orders during Mums last 3 weeks when we were at hospital for hours and we were looking after my very ill Dad too. She just guessed what we might need.


The kindness of an aromatherapist and reflexolgist who treated Mum for free. Did more for her than anything else.


Jx

Drag1964
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Hi. Most of the world thinks Chemo is the only treatment for cancer, but the truth is Chemo only treats certain cancers and has no effect on other one. Sometimes poison cant kill poison. Radiation treatment seems to be the new Chemo these days. It all experimental at this point. It all depends on how our body fights back basically. Keep fighting be happy. 

skylarks
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The weirdest thing anyone has said, knowing I have had cancer twice - once in 2002 then a different cancer in 2015 -

"You must have been very bad in a former life"

The kindest gesture:

A man I did not know stopped me in the street, asked me to wait for a moment while he popped into a florist and came out with a bunch of flowers for me.  He had noticed that I had no hair and realised there was a problem.  It was a very brief encounter and he wished me well.  If I was young and gorgeous, he couldn't have been kinder.  I am 64 and walk with a stick because of Multiple Sclerosis.

racy
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For five months ' I walked through the fires of Hell, and come out the other side in the hands of God'

Still have a lot of pain in joints but glad for the extra years

Raymond