where to start with this?
I've stage 4 Esophageal cancer that's spread to the plural of my lung and my lymph nodes
Had 6 rounds of chemo which had a positive effect - surgery is not an option for me, so I'm well aware that's extending time - not fixing anything.
Also had targeted gene therapy as had the receptive gene - but this has not worked -so it's back to different Doxycycline Chemo - which i'm giving a low Tripadvisor score of.
The kids (17 and 15) know i have cancer, they DON'T know it's spread, and they DON'T know it's not going to get fixed.
This felt like the right middleground when I started the journey as my wife and I wrapped out heads around the diagnosis, treatment and strange new world and language we were moving into
As a family, we are not religious- so there is no "positive" spin I can put on where I'll be wirth "granny and Granpa etc" when it's done it's done - and I'm now not sure how to deliver this message
Do we carry on as is, and just let nature take it's course, it'll all become too self evident in the long run - or do we be completely up front with them now and watch them suffer the pain of realisation - they are going to get hurt either way, I don't want to prologue that any longer than is absolutely necessary.
i realise there is no right or wrong here - but i'm interested to see how other people have handled it with their own families -
I think the dog will be pretty upset when I tell him too, but I could be wrong there ....;-)
