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Recently bereaved

Crowster

This is my first ever post as my husband died of Multiple Myeloma last week. He survived just a year and a day from diagnosis. We had no idea that he was so ill. 3 days after he died he was sent a letter to say that his next appointment was cancelled. Can I ask his consultant why he died so soon after his diagnosis? I just want to try to understand.

  • Dear Crowster

    Thank you for getting in touch during this sad time, please accept our condolences on the death of your husband.

    When someone dies and we haven’t been prepared for this it can leave us with many unanswered questions. Speaking with your husband’s consultant soon would be the right thing to do.

    If you have details for them it’s a good idea to contact them, or their secretary, to arrange an appointment. You can also contact the hospital’s PALS team who can help arrange this for you.

    Speaking with your Husband’s GP may be helpful, as they might be able to help you understand more about the circumstances.

    Keeping a record of any questions that you have can help you prepare for conversations with medical staff, in case there are things you forget to ask at the time. If you would like to call us we can help you with this.

    There’s no right or wrong way to feel just now and our information, coping with bereavement, may be helpful to look at.

    As well as family and friends your own GP may be a good source of support just now. And you can also speak with CRUSE as well as ourselves if this would help. The important thing is to do what is right for you.

    Take care, Linda (Cancer Information Nurse Specialist)

    Ref: LM/KM

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