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Hi Bombie, I totally know what your'e going through. I am watching my wife go through the same. Its just time left now for her. Not long either.
God Bless and Keep Strong
How awful! How old is she? When was she diagnosed? Sorry to ask.
Think we now both just answer we are doing ok, sometimes you feel like people don’t want to hear that your struggling and that you should be getting on with it. Every day is different sometimes you find something to keep you busy and other days you just want to pull the quilt over your head and ignore the world. But the pain seems to be getting worse the more time goes by
Billythedog I’m really sorry you are experiencing the same it’s one of the very worst things I’ve ever had to go through, my heart goes out to you both.
Hi Bombie. It's okay asking. My wife is 68 yrs old and a shadow was found in January 2019 after the GP had said her lungs were clear , but have some anti biotics. She started coughing up blood so I got her to A&E. The doc there was 50/50 it was Cancer. After 3 biopsies it was confirmed as Small Cell. A 5cm tumor on her left lung. She has had 6 cycles of chemo ( etopiside and Carboplatin) which was working well then 20 sessions of Radiotherapy to her lung and 8 to her head. It was hell for her. She couldn't eat or drink due to inflamation and her oeasophagus became ruptured from vomiting. She then picked up pneumonia in the hospital and she is very ill. She has lost 4 stone in 2 months and the hospice think she only has months left with me.
I will then lose my Wife, Lover and Best friend in one cruel sweep.
God Bless You Bombie and your family. No two patients are the same.
Minnie2011. Thank You for your kind words. I find myself wanting to do the quilt thing most days but I need to care for my wife. Keep strong bab things get slightly easier day by day. Baby Steps are needed. https://youtu.be/V_6qQEyCSv8 this is what I do. Hit the link.
Just thought I would check in see how yous
are and how Xmas went. Thinking of yous always xx
Hi Minnie2011, I am sorry to have to say this but my Beautiful Wonderful Tina passed away on the 18th December. It appeared that the Radiotherapy that she was given ( 20 sessions to the Lung and 8 sessions to the Head) was the worst thing that was done. It exploded the remainder of the Tumor into several pieces and it took hold of her. She lost 4 stone in two months and lost the use of her legs, balance and started to have serious headaches. The Morphine Driver was started on the Tuesday 17th and she never even went a Full 24hours after that.
I have Lost my Wife, Best friend, My Everything so Christmas was out for me completely. We have her Funeral on the 13th January and it's going to be Awful saying a last goodbye to my Baby.
I'm sorry, How are you doing? I hope that you managed a good Christmas and are lookin forward to a better 2020.
Please keep in touch as I am still using this site in the Bereaved Partners and spouse section.
God Bless You Minnie
im so very sorry, we had a good Xmas but new year has hit me a lot harder. I hope to keep in touch too and offer some comfort, it’s not fair we loose the people we love the good ones xx
Minnie, Thank You. Just Kepp Fighting The Fight. Be Strong.
I’m so sad to read this! What a cruel world we live in. I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope you can say goodbye without too much pain. Heartbroken for you x
Bombie, Thank You very much. We are not having a Funeral, it's going to be a celebration of a Great Life of a Great Lady. My heart was broken the day she was diagnosed. I knew the prognosis, she declined to be in the room.
God Bless & Take Care.
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