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Small cell lung cancer terminal

Bombie
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Oh bless him, I hope you have him for Xmas too! I feel so scared that this will be my last Xmas with my poor dad too x

Minnie2011
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We just have to cherish every day we get with them and be as strong as possible in front of them but at home I struggle so much. I can’t stand to be in the house alone I just want to spend my days with Mam and dad and do as much as I can. Work have been very supportive but I worry about using all my holidays.

Ellen M-Macmillan
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Hi ,

We’re sorry to read that you’ve been told that your dad has a short time to live. It’s natural to want to spend as much time with your mum and dad as you can. It’s because you love them so much that’s making you feel like this just now.

I do hope that you’ve been managing to get support and look after yourself, as this will help you to keep up your strength to keep caring and doing what you’re doing so well for your parents.

It’s encouraging to see that you and have been talking and supporting each other during this difficult time for you both. There really is nothing quite like the support that you can get from others who know what it’s like.

Having work supporting you is great, but it’s also understandable why you’re worried about using all your holidays. I can see that you’ve had a great reply and information from one of our Work Support Advisors. I hope you found it helpful.

Remember that you can also give us a call and talk to us on 0808-808-0000. Our lines are open every day from 8am till 8pm.

Best wishes and take care.

Ellen-Macmillan Online Digital Nurse Specialist.

Minnie2011
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Hi Bombie

We sadly lost my dad last night, he passed without any pain and very quick.

heartbroken x

Billythedog
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Hi Minnie2011. May I offer you my Deepest Sympathy for the loss of your Dad. I'm so Sorry.

God Bless You All 

May Your Dad Rest In Peace

X

BILLYTHEDOG
Ellen M-Macmillan
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Hi

We’re sorry to read about your dad. On behalf of the Online Community please accept our deepest sympathy to you and all the family during this sad time.

Hopefully you are surrounded by your family and friends and getting the support that you need. If you feel that it would help to talk to others in a similar situation remember we have a very supportive online group that supports each other when they have lost someone they love.

You can also contact our Support Line on 0808-808-0000 and talk to us. Our lines are open every day from 8am till 8pm.

Take Care

Ellen-Macmillan Online Digital Nurse Specialist.

Bombie
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Oh Minnie2011 I’m so so sorry to hear this awful news! I haven’t been on here for a while and wanted to come and check on you and him. I feel devastated for you

I’m so scared for the future of my poor dad. Sending love and healing to you and your family xx

Minnie2011
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Thank you Bombie

We held his funeral on Friday, I’ve been coping pretty ok until now, there’s nothing to focus on and everything and everyone seems to just have gone back to normal. I’m finding this rather difficult and I feel very angry now. 

My advice would be to make every day count and say everything you need to be said. I had a lovely conversation with my dad on the morning he passed and I will never forget the smile on his face when we made sure we both knew how much we loved each other.

Thinking of you every day xx

Bombie
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That’s lovely that you had that moment minnie2011 but I am dreading it. I don’t think I will be able to hold myself together! I totally get that you’re angry that people are just carrying on! I’m so scared for what’s coming. I have a friend who’s dad was told he was terminal 6 years ago and part of me thinks “oh this could be us” but then my dad has this cancer that’s so aggressive and you’ve lost your poor father after 7 months since diagnosis so I know it’s fast progressing. I don’t think my mum is coping that well as she keeps talking about us all going on holiday in a couple of years etc and I feel like screaming that dad will probably not be here!! I hate cancer, it’s bullshit and I feel so angry that there’s no cure out there x