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Breast Cancer Care

Tabbys
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I’ve just been told that my most favourite aunt has breast cancer. I feel my life has come to a stop. I want to help her but don’t know what can I do. Dr. Has advised chemotherapy must start ASAP as her cancer has spread to liver. As she live in Pakistan I’ve no idea what can help her & what can we do to help her?

Ellen M-Macmillan
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Hi Tabbys,

Thanks for getting in touch with us and welcome to our Online Community. I can see from your activity that you’ve already joined our carers group. That’s good to see as there is nothing quite like the support that you can get from others in a similar situation.

It’s natural to feel that you want to help and that you don’t know what to do when you Hear the news that your most favourite aunt has a breast cancer. It’s because you care for her so much that you feel this way.

It’s difficult for us to say what can help your aunt as she lives in Pakistan as we aren’t aware of the health care systems in different countries. But we can give you general information about the side effects of chemotherapy and what your aunt may be facing so that you can offer her support.

Unfortunately, secondary breast cancer can be treated but not cured. Here in the UK chemotherapy is often offered as a treatment when a cancer has spread to the liver. Our information about treating secondary breast cancer and understanding chemotherapy can be helpful to look at.

There are many different social and health care professionals that can help someone when they have an advanced cancer when someone lives in the UK. I’m wondering if your aunt’s family can get similar support in Pakistan.

You’re asking about what you can do to help. It will be more difficult to help as you live so far away. But there are still things that you will be able to do to help. Keeping in touch to check how she is getting on and showing you care will be helpful to do. Speaking to the family on a regular basis and offering what support you can. Some people find skyping or facetiming a good way to offer support. If you can pay for some treats such as someone to iron or do housework for her then this might be a way to help. If not don’t worry just letting her know that you’re at the other end of a phone if needed can be support in itself.

You can look at our information in other languages and see if there is anything that you can download and send to your aunt and her family to give them a better understanding.

Here is a list of some organisations and resources available in Pakistan that you could look at to see if there is anything that you could signpost your aunt and her family too.

You can give our Support line a call on 0808-808-0000 and speak to one of our nurses or information support workers about how this is making you feel. We are open 7 days a week 8am till 8pm

Best wishes and take care

Ellen-Macmillan online Digital Nurse Specialist.