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My husband has mesothelioma and is in palliative care and is losing his mobility after a life of walking in the hills ! He is depressed and anxiuos wheras i would like him to be more at peace . We have tried a counsellor and hypnotherapist but he is no different . he is on medication such as Lrazapam and Diazapam and Mirtazapine . Do you think CBT may help ? I am at a loss at how to help as each new development is so traumatizing for him . 

Ellen M-Macmillan
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Hi Annabellabee,

Thanks for getting in touch with us.

It sounds as if you’re both going through a difficult time just now. It’s common for someone to feel depressed and anxious when they have a cancer that can’t be cured.

Not being able to do the things that you could in the past can cause someone to feel this way.

Whilst it’s good that your husband is willing to try counselling and hypnotherapy. It’s not so good to read that despite his anxiety medicines he is still and trying different things that he’s still not at peace.

CBT might be helpful to try. It would be worthwhile talking to his doctors about how he is feeling. They will be able to offer support as well as help you to get support from health and other social care professionals. 

Looking after someone with an advanced cancer can be rewarding, but it can also be difficult at times too. So, it’s important that you’re able to get support too. Making an appointment with you own GP about how this is affecting you can be helpful to do.  

We also have this database that you can look at to see what support is available in your area for you both.

I see that you’ve already joined our supportive Online Community Mesothelioma and carers group. That’s great to see as there is nothing quite like the support that you can get from others who know what it feels like.

Mesothelioma UK is a registered charity that supports anyone affected by mesothelioma. Their website offers a great resource to help you find support.

Sometimes it can help to talk to one of our nurses on our Support Line about how you’re feeling. We are open everyday 8am till 8pm. Why not give us a call on 0808-808-0000?

Best wishes and take care.

Ellen-Macmillan Online Digital Nurse Specialist.