My Dad is coming to his last days of liver cancer, what can I do to support him in my visits to the hospital?
Any advice on what to take or what to expect as his body shuts down would be helpful.
The idea is to make his end as painless and comfortable as possible.
Thank you
Dear PamChick
My name is Alison, and I am one of the Cancer Information Nurses with Macmillan Cancer support. Thank you for getting in touch with us and I hope you find the online community a helpful and supportive environment.
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. It's incredibly tough to go through this, but being there for him can make a significant difference. Here are some ways you can support him and what to expect:
Supporting Your Dad: If the person you care for is dying
Be Present: Sometimes, just being there is the most comforting thing you can do. Hold his hand, talk to him, or sit quietly together.
Listen: Allow him to share his thoughts and feelings if your dad is able to. It's okay if there are moments of silence.
Comfort Measures: Bring items that might comfort him, such as a favourite blanket, pillow, or music he enjoys. These small things can make a big difference.
Gentle Touch: Gentle touching, caressing, or holding can be very soothing.
What to Expect: The last weeks of life.
Physical Changes: He may experience extreme weakness, less interest in food and drink, and difficulty swallowing. It's common for patients to sleep more and become less responsive.
Emotional Changes: He might become confused, anxious, or restless. Gentle reassurance and a calm environment can help.
Pain Management: Ensure he receives his pain medications as prescribed. If he has trouble swallowing, ask about liquid medications or pain patches.
Practical Tips:
Hydration: Offer ice chips or sips of water if he can manage them, but don't force it.
Positioning: Help him change positions every couple of hours to prevent discomfort.
Calm Environment: Keep the room quiet and peaceful. Soft lighting and familiar sounds can be comforting.
Taking Care of Yourself:
Emotional Support: It's important to acknowledge your own feelings and seek support from friends, family, or a counsellor.
Rest: Make sure you're getting enough rest and taking breaks when needed. Caring for yourself helps you be there for him.
Remember, it's okay to ask for help from the medical team. They can provide guidance and support during this difficult time. If you have any specific concerns or questions, don't hesitate to reach out to them. Please reach out to us at Macmillan Cancer Support for a chat, advice or emotional support.
You're doing an amazing job by being there for your dad. I wish you all the best PamChick at this difficult time.
Kind Regards
Alison W, Cancer Information Nurse Specialist
You can also speak with the Macmillan Support Line team of experts. Phone free on 0808 808 0000 (7 days a week, 8am-8pm) or send us an email.
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