Speaking to an empty room

A New Normal

2026-07-21T13:05:24Z

The dust is now settling and things are starting to feel more normal.Dad goes tommorrow Wednesday 22 July to see the ent folks again to discuss the path forward now he's not having the radiotherapy.Appatently a schedule will be discussed.Im not g...(read more)

Face To Face

2026-07-07T08:40:47Z

We go today and even though Dad's is adamant he's not having the radiotherapy until he's sat in that room with the oncologist telling her then I guess anything could happen and he might say let's do it..... We were told the cancer is aggressiv...(read more)

Cracking on

2026-07-02T06:33:56Z

Dad's Pet scan was clear but the drs wanted to do more tests,hunting round in his throat and mouth to search for the original site but Dad says no .He's decided he doesn't want radiotherapy ,he can't face it and we go see the oncologi...(read more)

Oncology...

2026-06-22T13:44:57Z

Had the first oncology appointment today basically told the cancer was stage four ,three lymph nodes involved,not primary and containers squamous cells.... Long rotton story short,radiotherapy will be shit,lots of awfull side effects and no guarante...(read more)

Oh FFS !!!!!

2026-06-22T04:35:44Z

You couldn't make it up Dad decided hed cut the garden hedge....why FFS...normally hed do it ,but he's got cancer,he ain't himself after the surgery and plus he's not sleeping and even before the cancer his heart af made him knackered...(read more)

Channel My Inner Spock

2026-06-15T05:57:31Z

Today I go with my Dad and Mum to see the Ent and chat about the path results.We know already ,because the consultant called on Tuesday to let Dad know the cancer isn't a primary...give him and us time to digest the news...but today we'll kno...(read more)

Just bloody ring instead of tex links !!!!

2026-06-10T14:28:04Z

I know it's the modern way but mum and dad aren't modern ,they don't even have the bloody internet ...they're smart phones are crap and don't connect correctly when they're dependent on signals in the atmosphere...but despite ...(read more)

Phone Call From Hell

2026-06-10T03:45:11Z

The MDT team have met and reviewed the path findings and rung my mum.and dad.I knew something was amiss when I phoned to ask how mums toes were,she's had two toenails removed in an attempt to cure fungal toenails.Dad answered but sounded off,as t...(read more)

Oh FFS !!!!!!

2026-06-06T14:09:10Z

I could bloody scream,but I won't.Mum is kicking off ,banging on and on over Dad.Hes got Cancer FFS ,cut him some slack.Hes had a big operation he's almost 80 you're bloody 81 simmer the fuck down .Mums in tears ,can't cope with all t...(read more)

Turned A Corner

2026-06-02T12:04:20Z

Things are finally starting to improve....Dad's scar is virtually invisible ,the surgeon has done an amazing job and you really cannot see a scar at all .It's healed so well, and the little infection looks to have cleared up after a course of...(read more)

Worrying again

2026-05-27T13:49:49Z

I'm worrying again,dad goes on 15 June to see the ent surgeon who performed his operation,the cns nurses said if they have the path results we'll get them then....I hope that they are ok and we don't get told more shit news. Dad is conti...(read more)

Same shit different day

2026-05-26T11:15:49Z

14 days on and dad is a tiny bit better.Still feels crap and his face is still numb and he's no real appetite.He looked thin today his jeans were hanging off his backside....unsure if he's always been that way....hes of to see the GP today as...(read more)

A Week On

2026-05-21T08:58:38Z

Dad feels like shit He's in a lot of pain...the consultant did warn him ,after his surgery he asked,are you in pain ? And Dad replied ...No...Don't worry you will be....I guess Dad was warned.Dad's face where they did the partial parotidectomy ,I thi...(read more)

Home At Last

2026-05-18T14:05:03Z

Dad was discharged yesterday afternoon ... We went and collected him from the hospital,he's to use a wheelchair because the walk to the main entrance from the ward was just too far and in his weekend state why walk when you can ride. He was knac...(read more)

A Mountain Left To Climb

2026-05-17T10:56:08Z

Well Dad had his operation ,almost six hours under anesthetic,the wait and the worry we're terrible but eventually we were told he's out and in recovery,and there he stayed in the post op recovery place for 24 hours because they'd no beds...(read more)