update

2010-04-01T21:50:11Z

Today mum had her appointment with the surgeon, thankfully they are going to operate to take away the breast in round two weeks.

Such a relief to know its not her time yet and that we have more time with her, it will not cure it but at least something is being done about it.

She is a different person now, alot happier that it can be taken away, although it is still alot to deal with having it removed, she doesnt seem to mind much, as long as it is taken away.

just hoping next time round it wont come back so quick, as last time it spread and grew back in 6 weeks.

still scared at what the future will hold, i know there will be a day when they cannot operate anymore, not sure im ready to deal with that just yet. but for now knowing that she has a date for an opp is good news.

scared

2010-03-28T02:51:16Z

hi there im am new to this site, my name is zoe and i am 22 years old, my mum has been fighting against melanoma cancer now for two years.

She has had two small operations and one major one to remover half of her liver, and it was followed by radiation treatment.

Two days ago she was given some bad news that the cancer has spread yet again. She has been offered chemotherapy although there is only a 20% chance it will do any good. She is awaiting for another appointment this week to speak with a surgeon and see if they can operate however it is not looking good.

i am still in shock, have not stopped crying for two days and feel so alone, so it is a relief to finally talk to people who are going through a similar thing.

i have so many things going round in my head like who will look after my dad when she is gone, i feel so angry and upset that she will probably never see me get married or have children.

i am close to my mum but i just dont know what to say to her, if i do say anything i am worried i will break down in front of her at the momment i have been hiding away to avoid this.

i have two older brothers and we are there for each other but i still feel like i cant let everything out in front of them. i also have a boyfriend who i have been with for 3 years now however he doesnt always know what to say and i just end up feeling angry and sad again. out relationship has had its ups and downs lately and im not sure if he will be there for me.

if anyone has any advice on how to cope i will be grateful